After my break up a few weeks ago - 5 month relationship, where I ended it and was not too upset - matched with a guy on OLD. We had our first date last Saturday. I shall call him mr posh. It was a perfect date and gentleman. We went wine tasting, had food, talked non stop and lots of laughter. Date lasted 6 hours, not too sure I fancied him, he wasn’t unattractive, but was a bit drunk. Red flag - he works a lot and mentioned liking not needy people.
Between dates we have texted sporadically. So no rapport gained. I tend to find having a text conversation sort of helps figure out if I have things in common , but not a deal breaker.
Today was the second date. He was picking me up in his fancy car, to go for a country walk and Sunday pub lunch. Was really tired today and really wanted a sofa day alone, but food and good conversation may help the tired feeling. He picks me up and the drive had awkward conversation. We decided to not do the walk as really wet outside.
Got to the pub, and conversation still not flowing. We had a bit of a banter about some new fads. Food eaten bill paid, off we get into his car and tour of the countryside - well expensive house spotting and wish lists. Date ends and he drops me off. Said he had a great tone and would I like to go out on Thursday again?
He is a nice guy, lives a very nice life, but he works hard for it. I am more grounded, but we like the same restaurants, lifestyle etc. Am I more impressed by the proper dates, as my last partner was it a wine and dine guy - more take away and sofa.
Not too sure why it didn’t flow as well. Was it my tiredness and me not wanting to make an effort or no spark? Should I go again?
I have a date this week with mr police, we seem to hit if off more in text - but again text is not a great gauge.
Can the spark grow?