is this my gut or my nerves?

[SaucepanWater]

Meeting sometime at 8pm that I really fancy. The first date went well and although he text afterwards, he was quite matter of fact and, well, I’m used to dates being quite attentive after meeting..maybe making conversation here and there in between dates. Things like that. BUT I don’t feel anything with these people and I find it all too much usually.

I’m starting to get a gut feeling like this one isn’t really interested. And part of me wants to not see him! But I fancy him and did want to meet him originally. Is this nerves talking rather than my gut?! I also have a way of self sabotaging and over thinking.

It sounds like you are worried that he isn’t that into you and therefore you will get hurt..

Go and have fun, and then have reassess after

The date's arranged now, you might as well go along and see how you feel in his company again.

I’ve got time to cancel though. Yes he was the same before the first date. He’s very relaxed about things, I’m a bit of a worrier (maybe that could be a problem!)

Not sure why I feel like this, not used to feeling anything for anyone really and I do like him so the stakes feel higher!

He might just be playing it cool. I agree with PP to go along to second date and see how it goes.

I don’t feel confident at all and usually I am totally fine!

You think he's not interested because he's not been too attentive?

That's your nerves, and well, insecurity and paranoia. Just go on your date.

Yep usually there’s a lot of messaging... or maybe I don’t notice as I’m not fussed either way. I am fussed this time though!

Not everyone is into messaging, my DP isn't. I'll send him a message and he'll read it three days later - he keeps his phone in his coat pocket with his wallet and it usually stays there.

Is this the date where you got a bit pissed and apologized or have mixed you up with another poster? If he is, it's probably just nerves that you're hoping it will go well this time.