I don’t usually agree with making the first move but in this case I think I might. Just don’t know what to say!
I left my job at a large building contractor in November last year. There I briefly met someone, probably only about 4/5 times and just casual chatting in the canteen / by the coffee machine etc but he always made an effort to strike up conversation and was very personable and open. He worked primarily on site and I also visited one of his sites as I had to write it up as a case study, I had a chat with him and he made me a coffee etc but really I went there to meet one of his colleagues.
I found out that he had dated one of the other girls in the office, I don’t know how long for and I only found out when their breakup was mentioned in a larger group conversation. It sounded amicable. I never spoke to her about it, or to anyone about him or anything like that. I certainly wouldn’t have shown any interest in him when I was working there as I don’t think it’s a good idea to date people at work.
I never discussed relationship status with him and when I last saw him I was with my ex. I broke up with him last July and have done a bit of OLD since but haven’t met anyone special. I think this man is single as he came up on my tinder a few months ago but I swiped left because I still worked there!
Anyway.., he came up on my Instagram last week on ‘people you may know’ and I just thought I’d be brave and add him. His profile was private so I sent a follow request, which he accepted pretty immediately and asked to follow me back. No pics of women on there.
I know this all sounds very teenage, but should I message him? Nothing to lose I guess, but want to do this right. I’m not really in touch with anyone I worked with, I wasn’t there long and it wouldn’t affect my present role even though it is in the same industry. He may not know I have left, but probably does by now.