Bad Start to the Year

[Jadelw1991]

Basically I found out that I was pregnant on Tuesday. I had a feeling but I’m on the pill and so this should never have happened. My partner of 3 years, we live together and he took on my son too (although son still has to do with his biological dad) anyway when I told him the test was positive, he turned horrible! Telling me that this is the worse thing I could do to him, that I’ve ruined both of our lives and he wants to get rid of it and no longer loves me. I don’t want to get rid of it and I’m gutted he is behaving this way. He’s now at his parents house and standing by him not wanting the baby (now saying he will be a father but still doesn’t want it) I feel so lost! This is horrible but I want this baby!

Then you go ahead and have the baby. But be ready to do it on your own. Better gou know how he feels now than in another 3 years time. I'm sorry you are going through this. He may come around but can you trust that he won't do this again? And how can you forgive the nasty things he has said? No OP. Get rid of him.

If he felt so strongly about not gathering more kids he could've had a vasectomy! To withdraw his love makes him a rat and a pig! Do what you want be it carrying on or termination. Go after the bastard for support

Fathering-Apple sucks at autocorrect

That’s a bit harsh EKGEMS - OP hasn’t said he already has DC of his own.

I’m sorry OP, this is so horrible for you. Maybe in time he will come round? Do you have support in the meantime?

Unfortunately some men appear to think that women have the sole responsibility for their fertility and they should get an opt out after the fact.

This is who he is, he’s revealed himself late in the day but at least now you know.

Let him stew at his Mum and Dads. Congratulations but be prepared for him to blow hot and cold and or to do it alone.

If you waver remember that he chose to manipulate and blackmail you into getting his own way, THIS IS WHO HE IS!

You should keep the child if that's what you want - he doesn't sound a great partner to be honest.

But if you were the one wanting an abortion and he wanted to keep his child, i doubt you would be getting called a bastard from any of the feminists on here.

What a dick. Not for his opinion on wanting to be a father or not, but for blaming you for getting pregnant. No contraception has 100pc protection and he had sex knowing this, his reaction tells you what kind of person he is - he is nasty, vindictive and wont take responsibility. Up to you whether you have the baby or not obviously but that would be the end of the relationship if it were me

Does he understand that it takes two to tango? Why did he not use protection if he felt so strongly about it? Just because us women carry the baby does not mean we have sole responsibility. He needs to grow up, but from experience, mine did this, 22 years ago. And he has never seen his amazing adult first born as he obted out.