Crush on colleague

[Fullmoonmademedoit]

I think he's flirting with me: teasing me, offering to help me, finding excuses to work together.

BUT, the two times we've been on the same bus I sat next to him and he avoided eye contact, had minimal chat and made quick phonecalls!

Does he sound shy / nervous, or am I just reading too much into it?

I'm naturally chatty & friendly, so don't think he knows I like him. A little worried he does and that I'm making a fool of myself by trying to be friendly.

I'd like to get to know him as a friend. Just feels like there's tension there that's stopping him from being relaxed / open.

What would you do in this situation?

Can you help me laugh at all this by sharing stories of awkward crush moments please?

Thanks!

I think you're reading too much into it. If he fancied you, he'd have made the most of the time you were sitting together on the bus, and chatted you up, maybe even asked you out, not messed around with his phone. He doesn't sound shy or nervous, just completely disinterested. Friendly at work because he has to be, but couldn't care less out of work.

Do you travel to work together regularly? Is that why you were on the same bus?

If I were you, I would try to widen my social circle, make some new friends or reconnect with old ones and go out dancing, or to the theatre, to festivals, see some local bands, have some fun outside of work.

There are a lot of posters on Mumsnet obsessed with people they work with and it rarely has a happy ever after ending.

Yeah, you're probably right. Disinterested