Lack of affection.

[Moominmummy12]

It’s been going on for a while now. He wasn’t particularly demonstrative before but now it’s got to the point where he doesn’t kiss/hold hands anything. I think I just got used to it. But seeing other couples being normal has just highlighted it.
He’s a good man but I just don’t know if I can spend the rest of my life living like this. Have 1 dc aged 8. Married 18 years.Really don’t want to break up but just don’t even know how to broach subject. I just feel cross and/or sad all the time.

I think you need to brace yourself and have the conversation with him.

He may not even realise. 18 years is a long time. I've been with my DH same amount of time and sometimes I am really hurt and angry as he seems away with the fairies...like I have to remind him I exist!

Just chat to him. Are you tactile...do you try and kiss him...hold his hand....sit next to him etc ?

Talk to him, tell him what you need

If he came from an emotionally distant family he may find pda's difficult to express.
He maybe an avoidant personality types.

You need to speak to him about it as it is affecting you.

Have you instigated affection? If so how does he respond?

Are you talking about in public, or is this at home too? I personally hate pda and I certainly wouldn't hold hands at home - what so both of you can get sweaty palms?!

How is your sex life? Is he meeting your needs?