Work Advice Appreciated

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I work with a colleague who is very bossy and patronising. He gets away with this and sometimes shouts at another colleague but not all the time.

He is not my line manager but every now and again he will try and boss me around. Most of the time he is nice and helpful.

Today he made me feel ridiculous in front of other people taking over during a situation and telling me what to do. I didn't follow his instructions but he was actually right about what should be done. I was absolutely furious.

I didn't know whether to say something but bit my tongue. I will need his help with a project and don't want to fall out with him. Also he has got a new job and will be leaving soon.

I am so angry and don't know what to do. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks

Would you have known what to do without his intervention?

His getting involved has speeded up a process. This is why I bit my tongue. It's just that the way he speaks down to people is offensive.

This says more about him than you. Often the reason work colleagues are unpleasant is all today with them and not a lot to do with you at all.

I hope you can count down the days til he leaves.

If he's leaving soon and you'll need to work with him in the meantime, I'd just cool down over the weekend and let it go.

Today - to do

Thanks for your comments.

I've encountered these sorts of people before in the work place who know when they can act a certain way when their line managers are not around.