Starting again in your 50's

[Onalake]

Children all grown up and scattered around the country, siblings ditto.

I have to move somewhere after relationship breakdown, but where to? We rented so no assets, I will have to find a new home and a new job in an area where I don't really know a soul.

I'm not sure I can do this 😥

New life, could be exciting if you make it so.

You can explore new area, meet new people find new social activities. At least you're not encumbered by having to sort out a house mortgage and other assets.

I moved after relationship breakdown, took me a good while to get settled. I didnt know anyone at all in the area. But having to find my way around etc and get settled in kept me busy.

I met current DP when I was 50, 3 years after I moved here. 6 years later we are still together and happy. At an older age you're confident enough not to be bound by 'conventional'. DP lives 20 minutes down the road from me, see each other 3-4 times weekly, share finances and holidays, and its fine. My home is my haven, just how I want it.

Good luck. Its an opportunity to start afresh.

Yes, you can do this.

I did and I’m hopeless. I moved to somewhere I’d been to school donkey’s year’s ago, rented a flat for six months to see if it felt right. My co. then moved to another town (where I had also lived ages ago) so I moved at the end of the tenancy.

Then I looked up old friends still living in the area, FB, LinkedIn etc, and contacted them. Found three who were also divorced/single and that got me started.

It isn’t easy but you will manage, honest.

I’ve just gave up everything I ever worked for to live with my sister. 110 miles away back to my old town after 15 years. No job yet as broke wrist on day of move and had operation last week. Surprising I feel no regret even though I have a room now not a place with all my stuff in

I've done it, Onalake, I'm in my early 50's, and it's not perfect, it's really ok though! I had to move away from nasty p.o.s. ex and lost mates too. That hurt, but felt so much better after moving a long way away.
Meant I didn't have to face her every day. Which helped recovery. I don't really know anyone well in the new city, but I use bars and other facilities on my own, there's always someone to chat to if I'm in the mood for chatting. .
Also I holiday on my own (I've learned to love it & even had a holiday fling abroad recently with someone, just as I thought I'd never have sex again!). I think you ll be surprised how resilient a big move away can make you feel once you settle into it. I wish you loads of luck and happiness.