How often have sex in a relationship - first year?

[user2348]

Hi there,
I'm 41 (he's 45) and my relationship is now quite settled and secure - only about eight months in...first months involved more sex, and we see each other several times a week. But don't have sex every time - is that normal? He says he used to have a high sex drive, but now it's prob medium. I've not been in a relationship for a long time and feel I don't know what's normal! But I also feel like I want to ask the question to others if this is...as aren't you meant to be jumping each other every time you see each other for at least a year or two? We have good sex, but I'd like him to initiate it more. But I'm also not dissatisfied, and tbh my sex drive isn't what it was in my 20s either. Thanks for any thoughts!

Girlfriend mid 30's, me mid 40's, sex everyday, xmas hols we didn't leave the house for days on end. New yr and both back to work, we're still at it everyday.

We both initiate, have high sex drives. Both work, i gym everyday other day. We eat healthy, don't drink, both in very good shape.
Not everyone is like that, although atm the relationship is prioritized above everything else.

A year in we had sex every day, sometimes more than once or every other day at a push. We were both mid thirties. Sex is pretty important to both of us and I have ended relationships with mismatched libido previously. But everyone is different and as long as you are both happy, whatever works for you

Normal as you're older, I would think.

When we met was every day, often several times. But we were young. I wouldn't have the energy nowadays.

Everyone is different, OP and we change as we get older. In my 20s I was a Martini girl: any time, any place, anywhere .

These days, I am somewhat more restrained.

As long as you are both happy, you are having the right amount of sex for you. If one of you isn’t happy, talk about it and sort it out.

Good luck!

This will vary so much for everyone for many different reasons.

DP and I have been together for 5 years. Me 36 and him 44. For the first year had sex maybe 4 times a week. Now it’s more like once a month. Largely because I am prone to uti after sex which has happened a lot more in the last 4 years for various reasons...but DP doesn’t have a high sex drive either. Although he would never ever admit or agree with that because it would hurt his ego 🙄