We have 3 DC all in primary school, a house together, we work professional jobs, I'm PT (earn lot less than him), been together 12 years, met married and pregnant in year one, too quick really, and he was lovely in the beginning. He has been EA over the years, started when I fell pregnant, and incident after incident my love for him died, and I feeling nothing for him now. We sleep in separate rooms, 2 years now. He's supposed to be on the sofa but often ends up in one of dcs beds, and blames it on me, saying I am not giving it a chance. I tell him I feel nothing, he says just try to give it a chance, I say I haven't felt anything for a long time, he says let me share the bed with you the feelings will come back, I say I can't force myself into a physical situation with him when I feel nothing, and I can't force myself to behave in a way that is opposite to what I feel. This is the argument that goes round in circles, again and again. Eventually I have to walk away, stop responding. He will bring up minor examples like "but you gave me a hug when I left at the airport" or "you said you wanted another dc" - I then tell him that these small things don't change how I feel now, and I no longer want to be together. The day will end then it all starts again the next day. Along with the usual what about the kids, money, etc.
It's really getting me down, he is from another country, and wants to try living there, which we have done once, and I hated it, he wants to take dc to visit and says I don't have to come, I am terrified that he will not bring dc back. But if I openly disagree it could cause major problems. I need to see a sol, and get some on these questions answered.
Any advice or support would really help me, thank you for reading.
Is he being EA by pressuring me to act opposite to what I feel?