What would you expect?

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If someone you had been seeing for about 2 months and had been on about 16/17 dates with and had had the 'exclusive' chat with went on a 4 day holiday, would you expect to hear from them at all in that time or not?

Depends, who are they one holiday with. If friends or family then no issue

Yes a text or call a day would be nice

Depends. Maybe a couple Whatapps but only if they were in the habit if doing that. I wouldn't freak out if I didn't hear while away but would be concerned if they didn't get in touch for a couple days when they returned!

I would probably expect to get regular WhatsApp messages with photos at least a couple of times - IF the accommodation has free WiFi and presuming it's a quiet-ish holiday and not a piss up with their mates.

4 days is not a lot of time to be away and I wouldn't personally want to spend time calling or messaging someone when I'd be seeing them shortly anyway.

Sometimes I think the huge advances we've made in communication technology in the last couple of decades has been incredibly useful in terms of personal safety, flexible working, etc, but it's also given us a huge amount of new insecurities to deal with. When I started dating as a teen, if someone was away for a long weekend then you said "I'll be arriving back Sunday night so shall we meet on Monday evening?" "Yes that sounds great, meet you at the pub for 8pm/call me [on the landline!] Monday evening. Have a lovely time!"

Yes you're absolutely right.

It's a piss up with mates.

I don't expect to hear anything - would be nice but I don't expect it.

And yes, totally agree that in the 'olden days' that's exactly what would happen.

If it were Ken who was away, I wouldnt want to feel that inhavmd to keep 'checking in'but, at the same time, can't imagine that I wouldn't want to get in touch once.

I agree, not hearing for a couple of days when he got back would be more of an issue.

Thanks. Just trying to work out if it would be 'normal' or a case of out of sight out of mind.

Tbh, he's not particularly attached to his phone and neither of us are big texters anyway. But we'd normally be in touch every other day or so.

Thanks.

Not if a boys holiday. You know what men are like. Not like us at all. X

If it's a 4 day piss up then I wouldn't expect him to be up for seeing you the following day, or maybe just a relaxed low key "come over and we'll get a takeout and watch TV" date.

Thinking back to dating comms in the early 90s has reminded me of the time my first serious boyfriend went to Donington Monsters of Rock festival (now called Download). It was him and 3 mates. It was a good 4hr drive. On their way back home on the Sunday afternoon my bf decided to stop at my work and surprise me. I worked in bingo hall, upstairs in the cash office. So the first I know is when the security guy on the front desk calls up and says "Furiosa, your bf is here and says he wants to see you." (in retrospect I think bf probably told his mates I'd hook them up with free drink/food, which normally I would have done.)

So I go running downstairs and find my bf and his 3 mates in the lobby and FUCK ME the smell! 3 days worth of the same clothes (including for sleeping) plus copious amounts of booze and weed, jesus it was rancid. I told bf to fuck off home for a long shower and hit me up the next day 😂

Haha yes, I remember Monsters of Rock well. Not at all fragrant! 😆

Well i dont think there's much chance of him smelling like that- but he'll certainly be looking and sounding pretty rough by the end of it.

I won't be able to see him for a few days when he gets back because I have things on but I would hope to hear from him. Maybe not straightaway if he's sleeping it off.

Tbh, it's not the few days piss up or not hearing from him that bothers me per se. It's what else he might he getting up to that might be more of a concern. I've never been in this position before 😕

But I do feel slightly reassured after reading these replies. I think...

Actually, having thought about it now I'm.properly awake, when I arrived is probably that last point at which I'd contact him. I might think about doing it around the third night but I'd be as likely to wait until I got home at that point.

I suppose my only reason for making any contact would be to reassure him I hadn't forgotten about him.

I had a boyfriend a few years ago akd went away with my children and some friends. I'd forgotten to take my charger so, when my phone died late on the first day, had no way of getting in touch. He wasn't very happy about that because he'd been worried about why he'd not heard from me all weekend.

I suppose I'd like him to want to reassure me really. But that's a bit silly because we're both fully grown adults.