I miss him so much

[Thumbelina33]

Please can you help me feel a bit better? I’m really hurting because I care deeply for someone who I can’t be with. I last spoke to him on Boxing Day but haven’t heard from him since. My sister is very sick and he knows that but hasn’t been in touch to ask how she is or how I’m doing. I haven’t contacted him either. It hurts so much to think that he perhaps doesn’t care? We used to speak a couple of times a week but I think it was mainly coming from me.

What should I do? Just wait? I feel like I need him but I don’t want to be pathetic.

Is this guy in a relationship with someone else? Is that why you can’t be together? If that is the case then I think you need to put him out of your mind and seek comfort from other friends or family. I understand it’s not the same but you can’t force someone to care to the same degree that you care for them. If he knows the situation and is choosing not to be in contact then he clearly doesn’t care in the way you need him to. I’m sorry about your sister

He isn't there for you in your time of need; he isn't thinking of you; he is no friend. You can do better than someone who doesn't care two hoots for your welfare. I know it seems impossible to do, but you must let go of your infatuation. Focus on you and your sister. He is nobody, in the scheme of things. Really sorry about your sister. I hope she can recover

I’m sorry but he doesn’t care. Not like you do. Please forget him and try to find someone else; there’s someone out there who will adore you.

I keep making excuses for him. Thinking he must be really busy or maybe he doesn’t want to intrude at a difficult time. But if the situation was reversed I would check in with him to see how he’s doing. It hurts because I thought he cared about me.

He’s married then.

Have you been ghosted?
I'd block his number.

We’re both with other partners. He has no idea how I feel about him. I have grown very fond of him and normally find him very supportive. I have let myself become too dependent on him for emotional support.

I feel ghosted. Maybe.

I don’t really want to block him. He’s normally very nice.

Concentrate on your sister, your partner and yourself.
If he is a friend leave it at that, cool the relationship.

Maybe he has come to his senses and ended whatever you two were engaged in, before it got more out of hand.

You need to stop relying on this crutch of a man and start dealing with whatever is driving you to seek solace in an inappropriate place.

Distractions aren’t a long term solution.

Do not contact him! You need to go cold turkey.

I know that you’re all right.

I keep wondering why he doesn’t want to be friends? Why doesn’t he care? Why aren’t I good enough for him?

He’s had relationships in the past with people who he’s been less interested in so what’s wrong with me?

Are you just friends or romantically involved ?

We’re just friends

Sounds like he just see's you as a friend and nothing more. Could he be a bit flaberghasted with the amount of contact from you?

Cold turkey.

Sorry about your sister. X

I keep wondering why he doesn’t want to be friends? Why doesn’t he care? Why aren’t I good enough for him? Maybe because he knows you want more?

He’s with someone else. She is his priority not you. You need to back off. You clearly want more from him.

If I was this man’s partner I would tell him to block you and never speak to you again.

Find some dignity. Your kind of making yourself look like a beg to be honest, you have a partner? Surly his support should he enough. If he doesn't support you then I'd be questioning the relationship. I feel sorry for your partner tbh.

Does your partner know how your pining for another mans attention? Leave your current partner let him be with someone more deserving.