New relationship protocol?

[Louise000000]

I'm seeing a new man for 6 weeks now around twice a week and we text almost daily and I like him alot.
However another man has shown interest who I also fancy and I'm just wondering what is the protocol here, are you a free agent until you have had the chat to agree that you are exclusive?
Should I ask my new guy his thoughts?
We have both agreed we don't want any sort of serious relationship.

Would I be a total cow to explore with the other interested guy?
I'm baffled. I'm only out a marriage from last summer and want to have some fun but also not wanting to hurt anyone here or act selfishly ?
Any insite would be great

You might have a connection to Man1 but, it doesn't sound enough if you have come across Man2 and there's also a connection there.

I agree with @okiedokieme, it's up to you but for a lot of people, you just know whether to stay invested in that one person or not. I'm 3 months in with my new man (we didn't meet via apps, it was a random meet) and we discussed exclusivity within 2 weeks because we both clicked so well.

If you are not long out of a divorce, then listen to your instinct. Get out there and enjoy yourself, don't get tied down by someone else so rapidly. Be honest with Man1, though. I also agree with one of the PP who suggested you turn it on it's head...personally I would not like it if the man I was dating decided to try out another woman he had met...but that's me!

I found myself in a similar position when I met my now husband, he was the equivalent of guy 2. He had shown interest (and to be honest I really wanted to date him but after a previous divorce I wanted him to make the first move and that took ages haha) so I continued to see guy 1 too.
I only saw guy 1 a few times a month but long story short, when I told him I was seeing someone else and I wanted to be honest, he flipped his lid as he had assumed exclusivity.

It’s a hard one to know what to do for the best OP. I think you just have to be honest and without making yourself sound like you’re out on dates left, right and centre, maybe just make it clear to any interested men, including guys 1&2, that you aren’t sure what you want and you’re just going to go with the flow.

Re exclusivity - as far as i was concerned it was a given if we were having sex.

I quickly realised i needed to be clear from the outset - no shagging until we’ve agreed to be exclusive!

So he may well think you are exclusive.

It's such a grey area isn't it!?
Yes sex does throw a spanner in the works.
For some that's exclusivity but if we are just a kind of FWB type thing then perhaps not.
I'll see how he's feeling about it all and take it from there.

The most important thing is to be honest with everyone involved. You are more than within your rights do what ever you see fit for yourself with regards to dating and shagging whomever you want, so long as you are honest with all involved.

Equally, they are also perfectly OK to make their own choices as to whether they want to be involved with someone who is multi-dating or not.

I would hate to be going out with someone who was also dating someone else. You don't exactly feel special that way, do you? And what do you talk about on dates? If he said, what did you do over the weekend?" and the answer was, "Well, I went out with David on Saturday and slept with him, then saw Sam on Sunday for lunch and some afternoon delight"? It's going to involve lying, isn't it? It's just really grubby, I think.

How to word this with guy 1 ?

You could just ask him what 'nothing serious' means to him and what his minimum expectations/ limits are?

I would just be completely blunt and say to him someone has asked you out on a date and you’re just a bit confused, how does he see your situation?

I agree with pp. say someone has asked you out on a date. As its not serious, you assume its ok.

Fwiw plenty of people have exclusive fwb

I would assume exclusivity if I was having sex with someone.

If it was me, I'd mention it to my boyfriend and expect him to do the same to me.

Although you've agreed for it to not be serious, he may be assuming you're exclusive. Be prepared for him to be offended or hurt. He might not want to see you again. But you need to tell him your intentions, just be honest and say you want to see other people, he might feel the same as you.

So I've asked! And he says he likes what we have any wouldn't do anything to jeopardise it.
So I have my answer there. And I do like him so I'm going to give this a go and see how it goes
Thanks for the input !!

Good luck!