No contact for 18 months and then I was extremely stupid...

[Leapoffaith00]

And met him.
It ended because I found out he was chatting to another women (please don't shout at me, I'm feeling quite delicate).
I knew it wasn't acceptable behaviour so I ended it. It took me a good 6 months to feel ok and start dating again with a clear outlook. I thought about him every day for a whole year. I was determined to get over him. Even when he contacted me on occasions. I remained strong. Knowing we were not meant to be.
I can't seem to find the same connection with anyone else. When I met him, I felt a rush of anxieties. I know he's not right for me. I know he doesn't feel the same way. Now I'm left feeling how I did 18 months ago. How do I get over this guy forever?! I know I was silly in meeting him. It's my own fault. I so desperately wanted him to feel how I did.....

Don't beat yourself up OP. These things happen. It has taken me 4 years to fully recover from my ex. Just chalk it up as an experience you must not repeat. You dont feel a connection with anyone yet as you arent ready or fully over your past. Give it time to get there. You will I promise you. Go get yourself a tub of ice-cream, some wine and cry your eyes out for a bit then pull on your big girl pants and start again.

25litterbird thankyou, I love your message. I have just grabbed a bottle of wine. I can't believe how it has made me feel. I was doing so so well.

You say he's occasionally contacted you. The cynic in me thinks that's probably intentional - he likes the idea of keeping you on the back burner and still like him. I think you need to block him and delete his number. It's hard but knowing he can't contact you and that you can't contact him will help. Good luck.

He’s never really let you get over it though
Intermittent contact etc

Block block block. It’s the only way to move forward.

08Collidascope thankyou. He did, yes. I have been stupid and put myself in a vulnerable position. I know he doesn't want me and I know that is exactly what he is doing, keeping me there for when he is maybe lonely. I have blocked him on Facebook (not that we were friends) and deleted his number. I have wanted to block him for so long but it's like I want him to want me back. He's never going to. I know I have to block him if he texts again.

18aroundtheworldyet thankyou. I guess not. It's like a double rejection now. I want to be strong and block him!

You just have to bite the bullet and do it I’m afraid.
He hasn’t been out of your mind for 18 months for that very reason. And he’s given you mixed signals and now you’re feeling even worse.

You need to be the one that says, this is not for me. Does it matter if he knows you’ve blocked him? No. None of that matters. Only how you feel matters.

30aroundtheworldyet I deleted his number. I can't block until he messages. It's like I'm awaiting that message to then hope I can do it. I know I have to. I will. It's so hard!

You haven’t got his number written down anywhere?

@Leapoffaith00 we have all been there. I once dumped a guy and messaged him at least 2 times a day for 2 weeks begging him back ( starting the day after I chucked him!) point is we all do things we regret. Block him and go back to getting yourself on track. Cry, watch shit films, go out with your friends and eventually you will meet someone you are perfect with. There will be another person out there who gives you that rush. In the meantime go have fun!

36aroundtheworldyet nowhere! I don't thonk he will message me. I have scared him with my emotions.
09Kayleigh12 I know we do, it's just I struggled so much and it really impacted on my mental health. Time isn't on my side when it comes to finding that happy ever after with someone.

Ok well that’s good.
Onwards and upwards.
It’s a new decade. You will be OK!

34aroundtheworldyet thankyou 😊