Ex doing exactly what I thought he would.

[queenjolo29]

Wrote on here before but I'm sooo frustrated and noone, in rl to vent to atm.
Broke up with ex nearly a year ago,
He drank lied cheated all the usual with this kind of twat.
He still been trying to get back with me on and off since. Example of this he came and see the kids at mine Monday and Tuesday, first time since boxing day.... Lirtally begging me to get back with him promising me the world 🙄texting me ridvuslous amounts for a week before this, (whivh I mainly ignore unless about kids) come to Wednesday, nothing... He texted at half 4ish saying he will come today to watch girls while I take my son to football, great I don't have to sit with him he can spend time with girls.... He's texted me just now saying he's working late and can't make it. Which is a lie has who he works for is on my route to school run and his truck is outside his house. So not working. He was spose to be giving me maintenance today aswell for the first time since before Xmas. I'm so fed up with this, I stayed with this man knowing this is what he will be like like if I ever left he's proving me right. How do others get over the anger and frustration?? The lies so he can do what he wants and not bother with the kids till he wants to.... I'm so over it, no point going to court he wouldn't do it and can't go thur cms has he works cash in hand.. He won't have the kids has he no where to take them, he lives with his grandparents who are like 85, apparently they can't handle having them there 🙄🙄Just can't get it out my head such a ball ache.

Just send him a pic of the truck and tell him to, well truck off.
Stop allowing him access to your home. He is taking the absolute piss out of you.

If I stop him coming here he won't see the girls and they do love him, I would love to stop him coming it's just so awkward. Maybe I need to think along that line has I can't carry on like this.

Imo your dc need a dm with decent mh than a flakey fuckwit df....
Defending /covering up for his inability to parent his dc will come back to bite you and the dc in time. If he is a no show do something fun with them yourself. Show them - and you - he has no power over their happiness.
He doesn't sound that relevant anyway.

Go for child support through CMS anyway. That way you may get something regularly and if you don't, he may fuck himself over in terms of his NI contributions over the long term if he stays off radar. Which is a cheery thought.

Even a regular fiver is better than him promising money, not delivering on his whim and using it to try and control you.

He can take the kids to the park or bloody macdonalds like anyone else. Stop letting him have things his way.

Thanks for replys, your are all right it does affect my mh which in turns affect the kids, I've tried so many times to say to him take them instead of coming here. he won't. I'm too soft I know I just think of my girls I've tried to do right by letting him come and go but this can't carry on.hw sees no wrong in what he does. Has for cms he hasn't been on radar for years so don't see the point.

He his having it his own way isn't he. The amount of times I've heard this is all on me and me having things my way when it's actually him that does, he comes when he wants texts me when he wants and fuxks of when he wants but I'm the problem lol. I'm such a mug ain't i

Defending /covering up for his inability to parent his dc will come back to bite you and the dc in time

Stop covering for him. Stop acting like his poor behaviour is your fault.

He is choosing to behave this way - don't waste your energy trying to change him or reason with him.

Letting him come and go isn't doing right by your girls.

He's done a right number on you. Is this why you ended the relationship - because he was a controlling, manipulative prick?

His behaviour is his fault.

Yeah go through the proper channels for maintenance and contact. If he doesn't stick to the agreements, let the courts deal with him.

Don't rely on him. For money or childcare. That way, anything you get is a bonus. And honestly, if you see less and less of him, you will feel better and better.

Stop being such a 'softie'.

Stop letting him walk all over you.

Get tough, get smart and go through the proper channels.

Show your girls (and son) what a woman with some self-respect looks like, who won't put up with this crap.

Stop enabling him. If he won't take them out, he doesn't get to see them. If he wants to, he'll find a way. And it's not you 'depriving' them of him, it's him being too crap of a Dad to sort out proper access.

He can't be arsed to pay maintenance for his kids? Shows you exactly how much he cares about them.

He will continue to a 'ball ache' for as long as you let him.

Time to put your big girl pants on. Stand up for yourself and your DC.

I'm such a mug ain't i

Well, you have a choice - you can keep doing what you're doing, which does you no good and suits him just fine, or you can change the way you deal with him.

You lose nothing by involving the CMS and may gain something. You set boundaries around contact, and you get on with your life.