Living apart for a while?!

[Sesicilana]

So me and my husband had a tough year and a half of our marriage - together 4years. We decided to live apart, but be together to work on ourselves separate(I study uni so now I have times in the evenings to study instead of cooking and entertaining hubby). He wants to get into bodybuilding(his passion from past) and we spend weekends together to reconnect. I love him and find it very difficult (even this was my idea). However, my husband seems to be getting cold feet and doesn’t even text as much as he used to. When he comes he is not in a very good mood and from chatty guy he turned quiet. Was it a mistake? Or should I be happy I’ve done it and the marriage wasn’t as strong at the first place?

It sounds like he’s realised he’s happier with the living separately arrangement than he was with living together. I’m not surprised, if he now has time to do all the things he didn’t feel he could do when he had you to consider.

If you’re no longer happy and find it difficult, it sounds like it’s time to broach the subject of formal separation and divorce.

Why did you do all the cooking?
Why didn't he cook for you while you studied?
Why couldn't he do body building just because he was with you?
It may have been a mistake but it looks like marriage was a mistake.
It's still early days and you are already 'separated'
What are you doing to reconnect?
Are you have counselling together?
Why did you deem it a good idea to live separately?

He mentioned couple time in a past he is not sure I’m the one and we are two different people. Then I told him to moved out. He stayed two months looking for place and organising the move...he cried and cried saying how much he loves me and he is sorry but it was too late to back up so he left we and we said let’s stay separate for a year and Just go on dates and maybe some counselling too... it’s been only 4 weeks and he keeps saying he is busy with sorting out his new place and we will start dating and all once he is Settled but I am starting to worry

You told him to leave, he doesn't exactly feel wanted.
dunno what you're looking for, but he's figured out it ain't him.

He’s checking out of the marriage, it’s what happens when a marriage breaks down and has been asked to leave. He’s trying to sort himself out so let him do that. You do you and give him space to figure things out for himself.