As much as my MIL is sweet and most likely wants my best, she is also very much treading on my boundaries.
She has a very judgmental/critical personality, which means she can be quite abrupt. She does not have many friends or hobbies which means her two children and now me (and soon a newborn) is the centre of her attention. She constantly asks how's the baby (that's not even born yet). She also constantly critisises that she does not hear from me enough and that I need to contact her more. She also laughs (in a demeaning way) at our cooking when we tell her we've eaten xyz which usually is some healthy hipster meal. To her of course, the only cooking which is good is hers.
MIL also tries to steal my attention away from my own mum, as if she gets jealous knowing my mum actually means very much to me and that we are very close. She just does not accept the fact that my home is not my MIL's house! She forces me to see her home as my home.
We only live 25 minutes away from my MIL, yet, she expects all our attention on her. Eg, on new year's she got upset that my husband didn't call her in time at midnight. He simply got confused with a massive time difference as we were abroad.
I have spoken to my husband about this and I'm sure he's tried his best to improve the situation. Of course, he also says 'that's my mum's personality and he cannot change it. I just fear the day the baby comes. It will the first grandchild on both sides and I already feel MIL's over involvement.