What would you think of this?

[GirlOnIt]

Firstly so as not to drip feed: split up with Dp because of some controlling behaviour after our Ds was born, amongst over stuff.
We now also have dd and are trying again and he's been great, made lots of changes etc.

Now to today, I'm aware I'm on hyper alert for red flags but don't know if I'm seeing them without cause.
I've been out to a exercise class with a friend and called for a drink after, including travel was out just over two hours. Dp was home with the kids. I got at around 8:30 and Ds was in bed asleep but Dd wasn't.
When I first walked in he said "where have you been?" But in an annoyed tone. He did apologise and said he was only expecting me to be out for a hour and both kids were being really difficult and Dd was screaming and wouldn't drink her milk.

But, she wasn't crying or anything when I got home and didn't seem like she had been. She did breast feed and seemed hungry for it, he said she'd only had a few ounce of milk so that seems legit.
He hadn't phoned me or anything and hasn't said anything about me not going again.
I guess I'm just looking for opinions of if it seems like he was just genuinely a bit annoyed from a stressful night with the babies or if he was annoyed because I'd been out.

I'd say this one was on you.

I think you're overreacting. Sounds like he was tired.

If I was in his position, I would probably be a bit annoyed too.

Agree with others, this 'where have you been' sounds more like a 'thank fuck you're here'.

If she is bf does she reliably take a bottle also? It sounds like she was waiting for the boob.

He usually gives her a bottle around 7 and she usually takes it fine @Coatzillaclaus. Sometimes she wants more from me, but he said she hardly drank any tonight.

I think you're all right though and I'm just worrying because of past experiences. He did say he doesn't know how I do it all day with both of them.

I think if you didn't tell him or check with him you were stopping for a drink so were out longer than expected it's fair to be a bit annoyed....

Would it have been that hard to send you a quick message?

I don't think so.

If he was expecting you to only be an hour and you were two hours then a curt greeting is understandable, if not very nice. Hopefully he got over it.

I think I've seen some of your other threads
Nothing is in isolation here

I hadn't said a time @BraveGoldie. He came in from work and I had to rush off to make it in time. We only went to costa though and it will have only added half an hour.
I thought he'd have messaged if she was upset, I think maybe he didn't want to message so it didn't seem like he was 'telling' me to come home.

I get him being annoyed with the situation that's absolutely fine. I've had days when the minute he's walked through the door I've been handing him a baby because I need a break. I guess because of past situations I was just wondering if it was more he was annoyed at me going out and laying foundations to me not going again.

I know it's probably just going to take time and seeing how he is when the 'trying' wears off. But I think I'm looking for the negative in everything he does at the moment so don't really trust my judgment. He's been generally very good, he was the one trying dd with a bottle and he's been supportive when I've mentioned going out and made sure he's back in time for me to go.

Sounds good OP, but also tight to stay alert.... old habits die hard, and best to catch them before they creep back in.....

'Also right' I meant to say