My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years.. but lately we have been arguing so much! He makes me feel like shit if I’m not in the mood to have sex, I work a very physical job which I’m up for very early In the mornings so some times when I get in from work.. no sex is not the first thing on my mind nor do I want to stand there while you welcome me through the door by grabbing my boob instead of a hug and “how was your day?” We don’t really talk anymore or have any communication between us other then when he wants to moan at me for not doing something or not paying him enough attention.. like tonight he’s started an argument because he has been in bed all day but apparently I should have gone in to the bedroom to see him but because I didn’t I’m in the wrong.. however I don’t see why I should spend my day off in bed next to him while he sleeps the day away.. plus the fact my daughter was off school with a chest infection and I woke up with a cold.. but he would of known that if he had bothered to talk to me.. he can be completely unreasonable and sometimes I actually can’t believe the things he believes the way life should be.. it doesn’t make sense it’s always his way or no way.. whenever I say no to sex he always shouts at me and says “coz you didn’t have control once in your life your taking it out on me now” (coz when I was 17 I was sexually assaulted) and this could be the day after we had sex or two days after.. he acts like we go months or even a whole week without sex which we do not.. he expects me to be swept off my feet by a text message.. I am honestly at the end of my tether and am really feeling low.. I walk around daily feeling like I’m treading on egg shells trying not to piss him off and 90% walking round feeling like crying coz I’m just so fed up! When he gets the hump he will literally continue to argue with me until early hours of the morning.. n I have to be up for work at 4.30am.. if I ask him to just leave me alone he won’t he has pulled the covers off me before now and not allowed me to go to sleep.. I just really really do not know what to do.. help!