Putting this on here to make myself accountable :(
DH and I have been struggling, for years. Lots of arguments and resentment. I find it very difficult to discuss even the simplest things with him. It got very bad after a horrible autumn half-term holiday, when he treated me quite badly in front of his family. I asked him to move out. He said to leave it until after Christmas, and I agreed. We have two children, 7 and 9.
Well. We had a surprisingly nice Christmas, and I felt like things were improving. Then today I asked him whether he would come to marriage counselling, so we could try to prevent recurrence of our problems. (Before Christmas I'd suggested it, he said he would consider, no mention after that.) He first brushed me off, then after I sent him an email suggesting specific times, and saying we could wait a few weeks until he's not so busy, he had a massive go at me. According to him, I'm ruining everything by having no faith in us, nagging, being controlling, not picking the right time, etc etc.
I am now in for many days of silent treatment and hostility, and there will be another big blow-up before any resolution is reached.
This isn't right, is it?