37 Weeks and kicked out

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When I was barely six months pregnant my husband kicked me and our five year old son out saying he needed time to think about what he wanted. A month passes of me being out of the house and with family he officially break up with me. I admit I have not been an easy person to be with I became depressed I stopped cooking as much, cleaning the house, and keeping myself up. Well Christmas comes around and the family I’m staying with needs the room I’m in for family coming into town. We all agree I can stay with my husband at his house until they leave. I have been back at his house for about three weeks now. We are getting along great and I’m doing everything I wasn’t before. I cleaned the house really well because it became quite dirty since he kicked me out. I felt as though we were going to get back together. Well the family left and now he is telling me I need to go back and I asked him well I thought we were doing good and maybe we could try on our marriage again he said no that he still needed time to figure out what he wants. I just do not know what to do about this and it’s making me really stressed and upset. It’s even affect our five year old he started wetting the bed again since he kicked us out. Just some advice on what you guys might think is happening or is going to happen or what I should try doing.

Then he needs to go.

It is not fair on that family to put you up with a 5 year old and a newborn.

It is not fair on your 5 year old.

It is not fair on you to live out of a bedroom with two children.

Off he pops whilst he carries on figuring it all out!

I wouldn't leave. He needs to provide housing for his children so therefore if he needs time or space then he should leave. If you were to divorce then it is likely that you would get the house (if it is owned/mortgaged) so o would stand my ground.

Oh OP, this sounds awful for you 💐
Refuse to leave! If he wants space then he can move out. This isn't fair on your poor 5 year old.
Is it your parents you're staying with?

Why are you leaving? If he wants to end it, he needs to move out. Don’t go anywhere

You need to stand your ground. if you want to be with him by all means tell him this when you tell him you are staying. But under no circumstances is it ever ok for a husband to wilfully make his wife and children homeless.

Are you afraid of him?

Which country are you in? Whose name is the house in? Owned or rented? Are you legally married (I assume so because you say husband, but some people say that of a partner)?

You need legal advice urgently. You may be able to get something along the lines of an occupation order.

Otherwise what are your prospects for securing your own housing? Do you have a job, savings and good credit?

Also, what are your birth plans (birth partner, childcare and so on(?

Time to start taking control of the situation

If he wants space, he moves out. It’s completely unacceptable to make his wife and children homeless. Stand your ground and say you won’t be going anywhere, point him to RightMove and tell him to sling his hook.

Are you in the UK?

If you are in the UK, I would apply for an occupation order with family court. Do you have money for a solicitor? Is the house rented or owned? Are there assets, including only in his name?

It is HIGHLY likely that you will be allowed to remain in the family home given you have a small child and are pregnant and not working. He knows this.

Don't leave us my advice. You're about to have a baby and your 5 year old needs a home.

He sounds incredibly selfish, op. He doesn't sound like a man I would want to stayed married to, I couldn't forgive him for throwing you out in the first place.

Are you in privately rented accommodation OP or do you own the home or rent from the council? If you both own the home or rent from the council then your H has no legal right to throw you out of your home. You are pregnant and have a young child! If anyone should be leaving it should be him!
You could try going to the council stating that you’ve been made homeless by your H. I think being heavily pregnant with a child who’s 5 should stand you in quite a vulnerable and urgent position for housing.

Surely at 37/40 and with a 5 year old stability is paramount. What's the plan for when/after you deliver? When you go into labour, will you be calling him?

I agree with the posters above, if he needs 'time to think about what he wants' he should be the one moving out.

A husband kicking out his pregnant wife (and child!) doesn't bode well for the future imo.

Surely it is easier for a man to sofa surf than a heavily pregnant woman with a 5 year old. He needs to move out.

Please refuse to move out and get legal advice. Kicking you out this late sounds abusive. I would be inclined to call the police if he tries to force you out.

Given your first instinct was a neighbour and not the council, do you have recourse to public funds? If not please say so people can point you in the direction of legal and immigration advice.

I cannot believe what I am reading! You have more rights than this if you are married!