Can I trust him?

[hepperhip]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I just don't feel I can trust him. He has messaged his exes in the past before via facebook, usually when we have fallen out. He always says its to get at me and raise a reaction. He ended up giving me his password as I couldn't trust him after this.
We have recently hit another rocky patch. I was going to block him and try to move on but he talked me round again. We made up yesterday. Today I looked at his account and he had sent a message saying happy birthday to his ex, with a x and a cute emoji. I asked him about it and he said she's a family friend and hes known her forever. To my knowledge, he hasn't wished her happy birthday whilst I have known him or even mentioned her. He didn't see her birthday on facebook a friend told him apparently. I feel like im just being made a fool of, again. Would you feel hurt by this or am I overreacting?

Yep sounds like the same man!!

But hey we are both fundamentally good people. THEY are at fault NOT us!!

Keep strong I’ll be here if you need to vent x

thank you...I hope you're ok too.x

My ex was like this. It didn't end well. He was having an emotional affair with his female friend just after I'd given birth to our daughter. I left.

I just had a blocked call and message saying hes going to move on...is this more manipulation?

Sounds exactly like my ex.

It's only now I have zero feelings for him that I realise what he put me through and I'm glad I left.

Was always second guessing myself and thinking it was me, and my fault. It's not your fault, tell him to fuck off and block him. Believe me it's empowering and you'll feel so much better!

I can't even be bothered with him at the moment, im just tired of the whole thing ongoing. I can't believe a word he says. I do have him blocked but can still see the messages though he can't get through.

i get mad and send angry texts sometimes but it's a reaction really

This is where you're going wrong, it needs to be complete radio silence and absolutely no reaction from you until the imbacile gets the message.

If you must get it out write your response on a piece of paper.

End it and raise your bar. This is way too much drama and way to many head games for any kind of healthy, meaningful relationship.

You are right. My head and my heart are so tired of it all. It just really provokes a reaction in me, I was so hurt and angry when I saw that message. And now he threatens to "move on". He always says that too and then I react again. I don't even feel like it right now though, which is good. I know if I spoke to him he wouldn't be sorry or anything and none of it would be addressed.