Does anyone have the husband and kids they never thought they’d have?

[UserOranges12]

I’m getting so bored of dating! Feel like it will never happen!

Any happy stories please? If you felt like this, did it change for you?

Give up. All men are bastards, Kids are a PITA. It's not like tv/films.

Haha mike I don’t want to though! I still have small tiny shreds of hope

I was only joking.

I was about to give up with dating apps & just plod Along being single then met DP.

OLD is pretty grim. The men seem so needy. I gave up.
You will almost certainly meet someone and have DC.
You are in the right place here as there is plenty of advice.

Yes I did, no children together and never will have, but he's the husband I always wanted. Met online and 8 years on still adore him and punch myself we're a couple

I’ve been dating years. Never fallen for anyone even after giving it a few dates.

Yes me! I was 34 and single and wanted children/relationship. I used online dating and was lucky enough to meet DP. Pregnant within a year. Had 3 kids in my late 30s/early 40s

My husband and kids are amazing and beyond anything I could have imagined when I turned 30 and was still in a relationship with a total arsehole of a man.

Came out of a 10 year relationship where my ex kept putting off and putting off having kids, so that I was 34 when we split, and totally thought I'd left it too late. Met my now dh on tinder of all places, a year later. We're now married with a toddler and a 10 week old, I'll be 39 this year. Couldn't be happier. (Ok if the baby slept through the night I'd be happier but hey, the rest of it is pretty good).

Single for 6 years, given up hope at 30. Met DH and now married with two kids

How old are you, OP? X

Yes!! Split up with exh suddenly after my 30th birthday. He placated me for years, promising me we could start a family when I hit 30. As soon as I reached 30 he decided he couldn’t commit to me and left. I was heartbroken, thought my life would end. 6 months later I met someone on a night out. We were just friends for 6 months as I wasn’t interested in any relationships. We gradually grew closer. A lot of our friends said i was on the rebound and warned us against a relationship. We have since been together 18 years, married 13 years and have 4 beautiful children!

Yes. Was 29 when I met DH, after a string of utterly rubbish short lived relationships in my twenties. Then spent 10 years TTC. Got there in the end and very happily.

Yes!!!
I split up with exDH 7 years ago, when DD was only 1. Several years of dating a string of total losers, and on the verge of giving up hope, I met DP last year and fell in love the night we met, and he felt the same.
We got engaged a year ago on Christmas Eve 2018 and will marry this year, at the ages of 43 and 49.
DP is the man of my dreams, and DD has turned out to be the most special, kind and clever little girl ever.
I used to imagine this kind of life, and am blown away every day by the fact that it’s real. Sickening, I know, but for years and years I used to be so lonely and depressed, and wonder when it would be my turn, or if IT would ever happen.
For anyone losing hope, stuck on the treadmill of OLD, don’t give up!!!

Don't give up OP!!

I've trotted this story out before on a similar thread, but a close friend of mine in London tried OLD for a few years and got very disillusioned.

She quit one summer then got involved in organising an annual community festival. She made loads of friends and ended up falling in love with the organiser, who is a truly lovely man. No kids as he has two adult DS and she is now 50, but she is very happy!

A happy story you say??!!

This was after being single for over 3 years following divorcing a controlling ExH, with 3 x DCs in tow too.

Do not lose hope!!

𝐂𝐎𝐔𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐒!!! Share your story!

1. Where you first met: in a field, and had what we thought was a rather unfortunate incident with an inflatable sofa 😭🙈😳😂😂
2. First date: Well we tried to go to a classic car meet but got there late and missed it, so ended up sat in my garden chatting til gone midnight. He had to drive home after that (2 hours) and be up at 4am to go to work!
3. Relationship length: 3 years 9 months and some days.
4. Married: we will be in June this year 😍😍
5. Age difference: 4 years, I'm older
6. Who was interested first: about equal I reckon!
7. Who is taller: He is, just!
8. Who said I love you first: He did!
9. Worst temper: I have a terrible temper, but I've never seen His, so I reckon his is worse which is why he keeps it in check!

10. Most sensitive: probably me, I'm a mardy cow at times! 11. Most crazy: Definitely equal! 12. Loudest: Me🙈😭 13. Most stubborn: hmmm..... could go either way! 14. Falls Asleep first: Him 15. Cooks better: Me 16. Better morning person: equally rubbish 😂 17. Best driver: Definitely him, unless its parallel parking😂 18. Most competitive: Him 19. Children together: 0 but he has inherited my 3 for stepchildren and is the best stepdad in the world.

Yes!
I was 38, had given up on OLD and had gone to a friend's birthday party, not expecting to meet anyone as I thought I knew everyone there.
Got to chatting to a man I didn't know, we talked all night, swapped numbers. We were living in different cities, so saw each other at weekends, then he moved to to be with me. 6 years on we are married with a 2.5 year old DD and I'm 22 weeks pregnant with our second.
Don't give up, there are still good men out there. I never thought it would happen for me, and I'm so pleased it did.

These are so nice to read!

I am starting to feel it will never work out with anyone. I’m older now too so feel time pressure as well.

I feel like I’ve been my best self and still haven’t found anyone.

@UserOranges12 but that’s what everyone else on here thought too, that things would never work out with anyone, and they DID!!
I really understand that feeling of time pressure to - when I met DP at age 41, I def looked worse than when I began dating at age 35 when I split up with exDH.
I admit to taking a look at the competition on OLD, and it was depressing, everyone seemed younger looking, more glamorous, more exciting, more fun, and I questioned why anyone would want me, but DP did, and he’s incredibly hot, kind and amazing.

It can happen!!

I left my first husband and thought that was it for me. I had a dc and just thought I'd be a single mother forever. Dipped my toes in the murky dating waters after about two years. Got burnt quite badly and found dating awful. I then read this book. https://books.google.co.uk/books/about/TheNewwRules.html?id=KyH11pEse4C&printsec=frontcover&source=kpreaddbutton&rediresc=y I was skeptical at first but tried a few of their ideas out and was shocked at how well the advice worked so I joined all the groups on fb associated with it and my dating life changed completely.
Suddenly I was enjoying lots of very pleasant dates with nice men with very little stress and confusion. I met my husband a few months after that and we got engaged that same year. Life isn't 'picture perfect' we suffered a miscarriage over new year but we do love each other and I hope we will have our own child soon