So hey! I’m not sure if everything I’m going to say is going to sound like a waffle but here I go.
I split with my on off partner of 2 years a few month back and after a very toxic relationship I decided not to go back even though it was very on off I decided enough was enough and I haven’t went back but the thing is I have a child from a previous relationship who his family and himself I would say grew close they were very consistent and it was much on my terms to hold the relationship together but during long breaks before he never wanted to see my child where as his family did try as their children go to the same school so it was just a quick hello etc but this last time he’s decided he wants contact and even though I promised I wouldn’t stop that as until my child didn’t want to go I wouldn’t allow it but when I have visited his family with my child to keep the contact and just try be part of the family he’s been very toxic towards me and I’ve had to stop going to his family homes even though I was invited as I would never allow her to see that type of behaviour but his family are very toxic and very vocal And discipline their children in ways I don’t and I’ve struggled in the two years for her to not be around it or removed her when it’s ended up like that as my family is not that way and they are very confused about what is happening.
It could seem like I’m not allowing the contact because of the break up but I’m not I’ve always been the one to instigate things and been polite as they are very intimidating and I’m well a bit scared if I do pull back I will have a pack of hounds at my door as his previous ex did the same and I only found out recently they threatened her because of this which does panic me as I’m very quiet.
I’ve allowed him to have visits at my mums which she has said he’s very lovely but it’s now been a few weeks again and he hasn’t contacted again to see her I mean he’s sent her the odd message but that’s been it and I don’t know if now it’s time to pull back I mean the whole situation panics me that much I’ve wanted to move her schools and my home as I don’t want that type of confrontation as I have tried to talk through a problem with them before and it became very bitchy, immature and It made my anxiety so bad I stopped going out of the house but that’s the type of situation he can cause so if I did try explain that maybe it’s best for us to have a fresh start but still be civil he would send the females in his family to confront me or I would have issues in the school. I’m so confused