Hi,
apologies for what will be a long post,
been with partner 16 years 2 children 15 & 12 my issue is i no longer feel like i am in love with him, i dont know how to explain it but i feel nothing for him. He is a mostly good man works hard, adores me and the children he helps around the house i shouldn't really be complaining but everything he does really irritates me, he is very full on and affectionate tells me he loves me 20 times a day says lots of lovely things about me but i just find it too much and irritating, he constantly asks for sex and gets very moody if i refuse to have it (he wants it 4-5 times a week) it has got to a point where i am repulsed by the idea i do give in and have sex just to make him happy but i do not enjoy it. He is quite possessive always wants to know what im doing
where im going how long im going to be etc, cant stand me talking to males (other than his friends) let alone being friends with them i work in a male orientated environment and this has caused no end of arguments as he thinks im having an affair with any man i talk to he cant understand that i could have a man as a friend. He can also get very angry at times he lost it on a family holiday recently and started to shout and berate me in front of a full swimming pool of people, there have been many occasions where he has acted like this towards me and the children. i have told him how i'm feeling several times before and it came to a head a couple of weeks before Christmas as i had just got to the point where i couldn't keep up the act any longer.
He is crushed and i feel terrible he has not taken it well at all says he cant live without me saying all sorts of things to make me feel guilty,
suicide has been threatened, he is saying i am not in my right mind that i do love him and i just cant see it but im pretty sure i know my own mind! he is making me question myself though in the past i have always rolled over when we have fallen out but i have said to him i cant keep doing that as it is making me more unhappy and i think that where the resentment has come from in the first place always giving in? i have asked him to leave but he refuses the house is in my name but he says im the one that wants to split so i should leave which is a fair point but i do not have the funds to be able to rent out another property it would take me some time to save up for that as he is the main breadwinner earning double my salary. also i feel soooo guilty on my children as having their dad around is all they have ever known and being teenagers i dont think they would take it very well arghhh its all such a mess i am just wanting any sort of advice as to where to go from here??