Am I a walkover

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I'm not sure.
I would appreciate your opinions please.
I am With boyfriend for a year now. We are getting serious. He is wonderful in many ways but everything we do, where we go , when we go there always seems
To be on his terms and even though he would never actually say no we are not doing that, he manages to wrangle his way around me To get his own way. I will am ver y laid back and I feel very loved.He is serious about me I think but sometimes I worry that if I don't go with his ideas that he will get rid of me

'There is no secret relationship.'

You say there's often a wink emoji. That means a secret or a double entendre.

I did everything I could to get away from my family as it is so dysfunctional. I was so happy to meet a functional loving family who treat me as their own

and this

I am considered part of the family now and his family really like me

is the reason you are so willing to tolerate whatever nonsense this man deals out to you, you want to feel like you belong, that you are part of a family that loves and cares for you, as someone that also comes from a toxic soup of family hell, this can make you very vulnerable to further abuse. You need to take a step back from this man and heal yourself and your family trauma, you will not find what you are seeking with this man. Please take care of yourself OP, wanting to feel loved and like you belong is the most natural thing in the world but you won't find it with him, he is waving red flags all over the place.

The relationship hasn't improved it's just got closer to what in your mind is security you're searching for.

What you've basically summarised is spending more time together not improvement.

Imagine in a few years time when he's telling you how to dress and where you can and can't go.

This person is fundamentally selfish and controlling. Dont let your past blind lead you into a disaster.

*is the security.