So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years & we have a 1 year old daughter. I’m from England & he’s from Scotland. I moved up there with him when I was pregnant because we thought we’d be better of financially but he was so stressed with his job working 6 days a week, long hours.. me and baby where left alone all the time, none of his family ever visited so I’ve decided to move back for more support.
The truth is he is really draining me & has hurt
Me more than he knows
I had my daughter on New Year’s Eve, I went for a sweep in the morning & I was already 2cm then, I remember the midwife saying she thought my baby will come that night or in the next morning. We went home and I just wanted to rest but he was pissed of because it was New Year’s Eve and he was stuck in so he went to his mum and dads. I woke up at 4pm and rang him to ask if he could pick some food up on his way home assuming he’s be back soon. 6pm still not home, I’m starving and crying my eyes out that he’s left me on my own, I’m in Scotland I know no one & it was our final night as a 2. 8pm I had a show, I rang him and asked what he was doing and he said he was watching a film. His mum said prior to this that it was ok for him to have a drink and if I went in to labour “that’s what ambulances are for” I was so upset. He got home at 10pm with a microwave curry🙈 We eventually got to the hospital and I was 11cm, I remember just feeling like I was not in the right frame of mind to birth my baby. He complained he didn’t get offered any food in the hospital & it should be the both of us that got food. Not just me. I didn’t think much of this in till his own friends said your miss has just given birth and all your bothered about is they didn’t give you food??!! I think I was so emotionally drained from him that I just wasn’t taking notice I just wanted to focus on my newborn
Last year was tough, I got PND, I think he was depressed to.. he spent easily 400 pounds a month on weed.
He gets irritated easily when dealing with our daughter when she’s crying and that really does my head in because I just feel like I have to do everything, recently I’ve just started my own business and I have very little time to myself, hence why I want to move close to my family. He’s lost so much weight and needs to put some on, I need to loose it but he is a really faddy eater so it’s like I’m trying to feed two babies, when in reality he should be the one taking care of himself in that department. He’s just really snappy sometimes, gets pissed of if he has to feed baby why I get myself ready for the day. I wonder sometimes if he actually cares about me
I’m just sick of the negative vibe from him & I really want this year to be a fresh start but again tonight he was changing daughter nappy and was getting irritated with her crying I came up and he couldn’t find her dummy so he was literally effing & jeffing, throwing things around trying to look for it when there’s another 3 down the stairs. My brother was there and even he said “he isn’t coping well”
We are in the middle of looking for a house close where my family stay but I’m not even sure if it’s a good idea anymore.
If anyone has any advise or has been in a similar situation I’d really appreciate the support
Thank you