My ex-boyfriend is a lovely guy. Very sensitive and shy, but also suffers from really low self-esteem and insecurities. He has bad mental health, depression and has gone through some pretty shitty things (e.g. abuse/neglectful parents etc). Whenever we argued he thought I was criticizing him, after two arguments in the whole relationship he broke up with me, this was about three months ago.
After we broke up we remained quite friendly, texting and having very long Skype calls (for like 8 hours a time). But, I was finding it hard, and sometimes he was really distant and took days to reply, so I went NC for about two months.
Eventually at the start of the month, I caved and replies to one of his texts. We met up before Christmas and he told me that he found it difficult to reply to my texts after the breakup as he would go to work, come home and get into bed to sleep, for like a month, because he felt too low to interact. He said that he did not see his friends for three weeks after the breakup, and his family had a welfare call to his house, and he had to stop doing his hobby (exercise-based) which was good for his mental health.
Also, he has heart problems (quite badly) but started smoking weed and cigarettes because he felt so down after the breakup. Which I found pretty weird to be honest.
Anyway he said is terrified that if we get back together, then the uncertainty that came from the arguments would come again, and that it would go back to day one after the breakup and it would kill him. He told me he didn't want to lose me, that he would never find anyone like me.
So I stayed at his just before Christmas, and we ended up talking for hours and hours about us and the relationship. He said it was circumstances - stress and distance between where we live - and that he did not have one bad thing to say about the relationship. Obviously we ended up having sex. He said we will meet up again (at the moment I am busy travelling around for work)
We've been texting like we did at the start of our relationship (we met on Tinder and would send long messages to each other over a few days - we spoke A LOT before we met up)... and now I am confused?? He is now calling me the "baby" name he gave me, and reads my messages immediately, apologizes if he texts back late/lets me know when he will reply ...
is this just friendly ex stuff? Or just us both finding it hard to cut the ties? Why does he act like I broke his heart, and not the other way round?