Advice needed

[Leah2]

Hi,

I'm probably going to ramble on this thread but I need advice. I'm not sure I'm happy in my marriage any more. Me and my husband have an amazing little boy. We are financially good. And seem very happy to everyone else.

It's little things that really get me down. He doesn't care about his appearance. I make such an effort for him. I'm the one who says no to things with my friends to enable us to do things as a family. He gets upset if I ask him to. (in the real world you cannot do everything you are asked to come along too). I take Control of all household bills/ general household jobs.

I also think about my ex alot. And although we did split up for a reason he made me so happy. Happiness I know I do not have with my husband. I still talk to my ex. Not in a romantic way or anything just as friends and I know there is no going back. Nor do I want it to.

I guess what I'm asking is does anyone have any advice. Or has anyone been in a similar situation?

Do you always say 'no' to your friends?
Do you have your own social life?
It's very important that you do.
So are you saying he gets up set if you ask him to do things as a family?

No not at all. But we cannot afford to do absolutely everything anyone ever asks us. For example we've been asked to do something every weekend this month, something we cannot afford to do if we want to do things such as go on holiday. I also do say no to lots of things.

We have also bought a house together that needs doing up. We've had it a while now. I'm really keen and he's not. He'd rather spend money on other things.

How long have you been married? Has he always been like this or is this a recent thing? Any DC?

1 child. His prioritys don't seem to have changed. Kids change your prioritys. Well they changed mine. Married a year together for 8.