To say or not to say

[Chociefish]

Name change. I've been with my partner for over a year now. We have a lively between the sheets life. About 6 months ago I discovered a stash of toys that were clearly from a former life. He's told me he's bought some new stuff but I recognise it from the find. I didn't ask him about it when I found it as he never dragged them out. He now messaged me pictures of said stash to use when I get home.
I should point out that he is the most loving caring positive man I've had in my life so I want to handle this without causing embarrassment etc.

What's wrong with using (presumably disinfected?! 😅) toys that he already owns? They aren't cheap and if it's his collection ... not sure what's wrong with that.

Depends what it is?

OK, dildo nip clips stuff like that. I'm sure all he wants is to impress me. He's very loving and I really don't want to upset him as he's a genuine caring guy with a little kink for sex toys..... Lucky me. Am I being squeamish?

Just tell him you found them and if that's your thing that you'd prefer to buy your own.

I wouldn't use a pre owned dildo either.

Alternatively, buy a few men's toys, whip em out and say you've had these for years and he can use these and see what he says.

I'd be pretty pissed off if my DH gave me sex toys her used on someone else.

What's wrong with using (presumably disinfected?! 😅) toys that he already owns? They aren't cheap and if it's his collection ... not sure what's wrong with that.

Would you wear another women's knickers? Use a washed reusable sanitary towel or knicker liner? Because I certainly wouldn't! Beyond grim!

I'd tell him straight OP.

He likely was waiting until he knew you may be interested in that sort of thing/felt comfortable enough to tell you without thinking about the fact they are 'old' toys (I'm quite sure he will have cleaned them so prob thinks its not an issue?). I would just say you came across them a while ago but didn't want to embarrass him as he'd not brought it up, and if you are interested you will both purchase new toys together.

Errrm, no I wouldn't be happy with his other life's toys. If I was in your position I would say that you bought the upgraded Rabbit with all the bells and whistles as thats what you prefer and you can't wait to try it out with him later. Job done!

Why are you worried about upsetting him, when he's the one who has lied?

Surely it's only polite to ask if your girlfriend is happy to use toys that have previously been in your ex girlfriend's vagina and who knows where? .

On that note me and DP actually have a small collection we haven't even used so it could possibly be the same. Full fetish kit untouched because we have gotten carried away then forgotten. They might be new but either way, if he is really nice just broach it then see what you both want to do in terms of getting things together.

Just tell him you found them and if that's your thing that you'd prefer to buy your own.

I wouldn't use a pre owned dildo either.

Exactly this...

Ew... no. Tell him you've ordered some new toys and that you'll have some fun when they arrive in the post! Then order some ASAP.

What's wrong with using (presumably disinfected?! 😅) toys that he already owns?

How many posting here would be happy to use his ex-girlfriends toothbrush?

Oh yuck 😔

How many posting here would be happy to use his ex-girlfriends toothbrush?

That ain't no toothbrush.....

Omg hahaha they ain't no toothbrush!

Bloody hell I refused to use a sleeping bag dh's ex slept in!!
A washed sleeping bag!!
Bin and order new together.
Ime
*mine not dh's!!

I must be a pervert because I thought the dildo was for him! In which case it’s only been up him so no worries. I thought women had rabbits and vibrators while gentlemen favour a dildo 🤣 perhaps it’s my age

They can cost a fair amount. My stash cost hundreds of pounds. I wouldn't expect an OH to buy it all again. You are reusing his knob at the end of the day. Like the dildo etc, it may have had previous owners, but hopefully he's washed both since. :)

Update. Big phew turns out everything was factory wrapped still. Saved a few blushes all round!

hhhmmmmmmmmmm

so where the 'old' gear then? ebay ?