Experimenting with my friend?

[Turbotastic]

Don't even know how to start writing this!

Basically, I have a close female friend who is bisexual. I had always considered myself bicurious but never really had the opportunity to do anything about it until a few years ago when a woman came on to me when we were both extremely drunk. We didn't really do much, mainly because it felt all wrong and I stopped it. I thought it was because I'm actually totally straight and I wasn't really into girls but now I'm rethinking things! I'm thinking that maybe I just wasn't attracted to HER and didn't know her that well, same as I would if a random guy hit on me.

I find my bi friend very physically attractive and I've recently found out that she actually really wants to hook up with me but has not made a move because she thinks I wouldn't be interested. Ever since I found this out I've been fantasising about it and I can't get it out of my head! But the idea is also so scary to me because I'm a complete virgin when it comes to women and I would have no idea what to do. I'm terrified I wouldn't be any good and would disappoint her, or that she wouldn't find me as attractive when I'm naked (she is tall, slim and stunning whereas I am short, chubby and quite plain). I think I would feel equally shy and nervous about being sexual with a man for the first time, and have been in the past but obviously it's even more nerve wracking because it's unfamiliar territory.

Part of me thinks she would be the ideal person to experiment with because either way (if it was good or not) we'd just carry on as we are and stay friends and because she is very experienced she'd be able to be patient with me and ease me into things. Neither of us want a relationship it would be purely sexual.

Feel so conflicted and don't know what to do?!

It depends if you still want a friendship with her, as imo it's not good tho use a friend as a fuck buddy.

I'm afraid I agree with PP - I'm all for exploring your sexuality, and I'm in favour of FWB arrangements, but if you value the friendship as it currently is, I'd be very reluctant to take any chance of disrupting that.

Booty calls are ten a penny but good friends are much rarer.

don't do it.
you will regret it.
you will lose your friend.

Also meant to say: please do not worry about your physical appearance. You already know your friend fancies you, and presumably you don't wear a mask and a girdle when you meet up with her! Sexual attraction is a very individual thing and for many people it's more about being attracted to your voice, the things you say, the way you laugh, they way you listen, etc. (I once was being designated driver to and from a gig and one of the guys said I changed gear in a really sexy way! No idea what he meant but I took it as a compliment!)

Very person dependent I expect. I've done it, it was great fun, couple of followups together shortly after, and still friends twenty years later. That happy outcome may be rare or may be common, I've honestly no idea.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation that's very true, apparently for some strange reason she already fancies me! So I must have something she likes, I just worry that if she saw the full naked truth (so to speak) she'd see all those flaws I normally hide - stretch marks, flabby 'mum tum' etc and go off me.

I think the fact I know her so well and like her as a friend and a person is the only reason I'm even considering it. Doing anything with a random just doesn't appeal to me. I'd never approach a woman, they'd have to make the first move!

It would definitely be just a sex thing. I knows she's experimented with friends before and it's all worked out but everyone is different I guess.

Go for it! It could be amazing.

I love being with women, totally different experience to being with a man. Don't try and compare it.

Most women will know exactly what you're insecure about because they have the same issues. Like I said it's a whole new world sleeping with the same gender.

Full level three bisexual here - equally heterosexual and homosexual. Happy to answer any questions.

Can I just say as well, curvy women feel amazing when you're in bed with them. So soft.

Go for it. If she's a true friend she won't mind that you don't have much experience and aren't Barbie. Hopefully there should be no-one more likely to be gentle and supportive. Have fun :)

Too right! Absolutely go for it!!!!!!

Go for it! Life is so short.

I had a lesbian relationship with my friend. It ended and we are still best friends. No residual feelings at all. Completely platonic now. But was fun at the time.

Also agree with milk.

I always fancy larger women. They just feel nicer in bed!

You describe yourself like I'm pretty sure the woman I'm lusting after right now does. She sees herself as plain and overweight with many imperfections.

I see her as an absolute, total goddesses turns me on every time I see her!

All I want to do is get my hands on her..but I can't because circumstances make it impossible, at least for now.

Don't do yourself down, it's a total waste of time: she's already attracted to you!