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fairycakesandtea7 · 05/01/2020 14:09

I've recently started seeing someone I briefly dated a few years ago. We live a distance away from each other. We are both pretty busy people, but he often leaves me on read for days a time. I am normally pretty chilled out and get that texts aren't urgent and that he's busy so I normally wait for him to reply back to me, however the length between replies is getting longer and longer.
I really like this guy and I am willing to see where things go and normally I would take the above as a sign of disinterest, but he has said that he would like to see me soon in a month's time. Not sure where I stand and when it's appropriate to send another text, I don't want to seem desperate or like I'm overkeen!

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Doubleyouexwhyandzed · 05/01/2020 14:18

He’s just not that into you. Keep your options open.

Tinyandpetite · 05/01/2020 14:21

He sounds exactly like my ex , he’ll string you along forever more. I know how it feels, find someone who deserves you x

AttilaTheMeerkat · 05/01/2020 14:23

Be someone's priority rather than an option. You're an option. There are plenty of other men who won't mess you about and this one too seems completely disinterested.

You have changed from the people you were a few years ago. It did not work out then and its not working out now. And now you appear happy for him to see you in a month's time. This shows me how pathetically low your relationship bar is and its pretty well low. Why have you seemingly only been texting each other as well; this is not communication. Do you actually talk to each other verbally?.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?.

Raise your relationship bar a lot higher now and going forward. Get counselling for yourself to work out exactly why you are putting up with such really shoddy treatment from a man who was your ex to boot.

fairycakesandtea7 · 05/01/2020 14:27

Writing it down made me realise how disinterested it makes him sound! We previously dated for about a month before ending it as we were both due to move away, so he's not really an ex. Think I may have to let him go....

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Gwilt160981 · 05/01/2020 14:30

Don't waste your time waiting. Why wait around that's neither here nor there?

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