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Instinct/gut feeling, how much do you believe in it?

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Mumblingnet · 05/01/2020 01:43

I recently ended a brief 3 month relationship. He's a lovely bloke but we both have a few personal issues to sort out. We have stayed in contact nearly daily.

At first I was quite unsettled and upset even though I finished things and then I had dropped a few things I had of his at his house. It was slightly awkward but friendly and we hugged as I left. We have been in contact daily since then including 3 phone calls from him today.

However I have this overwhelming gut feeling that I shouldn't throw the towel in with this one. I cannot put my finger on it. I still find him very attractive, we still talk about very important things in our lives and are generally as open and trusting as we've ever been. I'm the first person he's seen for longer than 4 dates in about 2 years and he's often told me I am the only person he's fully trusted in years. I have to say I find myself trusting him a lot too and I can tell him anything.

I'm really unsure what to do. Ending things with him was the first time I've ever met my head rule my heart. Obviously I would want us both to fix over the other bits of our lives that we needed to sort out first. But something in my gut tells me there is much more to this that I first anticipated.

Has anyone else had a similar experience and was your instinct correct?

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Whoops75 · 05/01/2020 01:47

Nit a believer in gut feelings but am a believer in knowing when something isn’t right.

If it isn’t right after 3 months I would move on.

BitOfFun · 05/01/2020 02:24

You haven't even broken up with him if you we still talking every day! No wonder you are having trouble seeing it as over.

wishing4sun · 05/01/2020 08:24

I have been in a situation a bit like this, it's a very strong feeling and in my situation I stuck with my head, me and the man are still really good friends we speak 2/3 times a week, we both acknowledge the feelings we had at the time but have moved on to a great friendship.

Mumblingnet · 05/01/2020 13:00

Bitoffun what you've said actually resonates with me a lot. I told him before I went to drop his things off that I wanted to put some space between us as I felt quite down about the whole thing and well that lasted all of a day Hmm neither one of us is initiating contact more that the other. There just seems to be such a strong pull between us, maybe I need to be more forceful with the space and let my head settle down a bit

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