Hi, a long story really. Been with partner for about 3 1/2 years, met his children after 1 year, his ex wife has a new partner who she is happy with. He lives about an hour away so we generally see each other at weekends or during the week and talk on the phone every/several times a day. I work full time and have two children and a busy life, he has 2 children (11 and 9). In the evening, I try to talk on the phone once I've made tea, got my children sorted etc. He only has his children every other weekend Saturday to Sunday and Wednesday evening (not overnight) and half the holidays. For a few months, he has been complaining to me that I was communicating less and moving away from him emotionally. The reality is that I'm exhausted and would like to sit down and breathe before picking up the phone in the evening and he phones me from the car on his way back from work and whenever he's at a loose end. I would prefer to speak once I've done everything and can actually concentrate on having a meaningful conversation and have told him that. Anyway, he took his children for one night to a hotel and didn't phone at all during that time which was fine except a massive double standard. His children also go to bed really early (6.30-7!!) However, his reason for not phoning was that he said that he was feeling guilty that he had left their mum (at least 5 years ago!!) and thought that his children would have had better life experiences and more things if he hadn't left although that didn't mean that he wished he hadn't left because he didn't love her or want to be with her (she has a boyfriend anyway!). He loves me, so he says, but he was feeling sad and not thinking of anything else at this time so he didn't phone me! His children know me and see me often. Sorry for the long post. Just would like to know thoughts from anybody! I suppose I feel that everything is on his terms.