Phones

[Lou898]

I have always insisted on phones been left downstairs on a night when DS goes to bed however I’ve allowed him to have it over the Christmas holidays. I never allowed eldest to have it upstairs either but he’s now 20 so don’t feel I can restrict him now. Tonight I’ve said as it’s school again on Monday from tonight he needs to leave phone downstairs. He’s just gone on and on about me treating him like a baby and when will I stop etc etc. I’ve stuck to my guns and he’s reluctantly left it downstairs.
My issue is that he’s not been getting up until after 11am most days probably due to him being on his phone unrestricted and he needs to be up at 7am for school starting Monday. He says he uses his phone for an alarm, but he doesn’t need to as he has alarm clock and I get him up on school days if he’s not already up. He then says trust him to get up and if he doesn’t I can take it off him. This will not stop him going to sleep at ridiculous hours only make him tired. He goes to bed at 10.00pm so don’t think he needs to have his phone as he should be going to bed to sleep.
AIBU ?

Age?

Sorry he’s 15

YANBU, you have to protect their sleep as it can effect school performance etc.

I think he’s old enough to manage his own sleep tbh

If he's saying he only needs it for an alarm and he already has an alarm clock then I don't see any reason why he needs his phone is in room.
Granted, my child is only 12 but the rule is that the phone's left downstairs in the kitchen overnight. Mine is left downstairs too.
It's not just getting up in the morn, but also getting enough sleep. And I also think you need general downtime (says me, who's on her laptop in front of the TV in the living room at 12.19am ).

Fochit

I think at 15 he should start to manage his own time. Give him the freedom to make his own decisions and experience the consequences. It’s a stepping stone to far bigger decisions to come in the upcoming years.

@Fochit
But a lot don't manage it. Friends of my daughter are on it at 2am. Mine has to switch it off to leave downstairs when she goes to bed as the thing constantly buzzes from snapchat etc and is still active at midnight..op stick to your line as it will pay off

If he relies on WiFi switch it off . While my DD was in school no phone upstairs after 11 except on weekends on holidays otherwise she'd never have been off it

You would consider policing your 20 year old’s sons phone usage if you hadn’t set a different precedent with him? 🤔