Stopped caring what men think

[Neverlovedya]

Anyone else ? I have decided that I don't give a stuff whether men are attracted to me or not. I don't care whether i'm the sort of girl that men want to date, I think i'm fabulous and if men don't I won't lose any sleep over it.
I had a date before Christmas. It seemed to go well and he was texting afterwards asking if I got home ok and everything, then suddenly stopped replying and haven't heard from him since.
I have been talking to another guy for a good 10 days. He seemed keen and asked me to go out for a drink, we arranged to meet this weekend and again, suddenly stopped replying with no explanation.
They are either married or have found something 'better' on the site but i'm not even surprised anymore and couldn't care less.
When I see my friends anxious if the guy will text back, playing all these 'hard to get' games, confused as to whether it's gonna be official or not I don't envy it one bit.
I will never lose myself again to a man or try to modify myself again to attract one.

Amennnnn!! 🙌🏻

I feel exactly the same! I reached a point in my life that If a man wants to come into my life he has to be really special and bring something extra good into it!

Aye, fuck that.
Cats are better.

Amen indeed 🥂🎉

I can't stand the whole dating process, the whole idea of seeming disinterested so the man chases you, it's embarrassing.

the whole idea of seeming disinterested so the man chases you, it's embarrassing.

It's also counterproductive with some men who will take disinterest, feigned or not, at face value and look elsewhere.

That's true and I wish this happened more often.

🙌 with you here !

The game playing is fucking exhausting, I remember it well. The only way to attract what you want is to pretend you don't want it, what the hell.

As for sex, what a joke. Nature made men and women both disposed to enjoy sex, but society? Nature? Who? Gave some otherwise seemingly nice and intelligent men a firm belief that women who agree to sex have lessened themselves and are now not worth pursuing.

To hell with the whole lot of it.

Great post OP, you are absolutely right. I don't give a damn anymore. I really don't.

(48) I've done my time! I am so worried for my little DD and her future with potential boyfriends. I really hope she doesn't compromise herself, it is my biggest fear.

YY MorrisZapp Absolutely.

God I wish I could be like you guys.

@chochito,you can be :) here's to never compromising ourselves again for men !

Its liberating! I can speak to men in a natural way, ie, not thinking "im laughing too much, he will get the wrong idea". Im not taking responsibility for what men think and say

That's great ! I know that feeling well, overthinking what I say/how I speak to men I like. To hell with that.

Exdp was on dating sites all December because we separated, he spent Christmas with me for lo. Then when it was time to go he smashed up his phone.
I'm guessing their are women out there wondering where he's gone. I actually saw one message her fanny with a butt plug .

OLD is the devil. Exdp sent me flowers the first we we dated, checked I was home and messaged and called daily. This is how he is will them all. Obviously I didn't know this years back.

Fuck them all, you can even enjoy having a good time and getting flowers without it being a red flag now. It's all to confusing

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Neverlovedya I'll try. I just find it so difficult.

IME women are just as flaky.

When you seriously don't give a f**k what anyone thinks you have reached a level of freedom that is liberating :)

Im not taking responsibility for what men think and say

Should be handed out on leaflets and printed on tee shirts!

With you on that.. I've been single many years now & the last few happily so! I no longer feel the need to actively search for a man like friends tell me I should. As a lone parent of 2 children & working 2 jobs I simply cannot be arsed to date, I'd rather spend my down time at home with them. My New Years resolution was not to be so closed minded to the idea & to try a couple of dates but 1 look on POF changed my mind!! 🙈