I love these messages that you have gotten. I am about to go through seperation with my husband: after being his fulltime carer for 9 years and day in and day out and then I go to a friends he's calling and calling begging me to come home......
He is diagnosed with a mental illness and I KNOW that every day he wakes up terrified, I try and try to be compassionate...........anyway.
Here are some ideas that might assist or not:
WHY DONT YOU:
Start finding a place where you and your children can live alone.
Get on a really good budget ( hard, me and my husband on disability) and budget for a cleaner ? I pay someone $90 per month to get our place clean. It keeps things from falling apart too much.
Forget him: Get the kids on a timetable. Stick the timetable up on the living room wall something like : 7am wake up. 7.15am. breakfast 7,30 clothes on that is laid out the night before 8am: breakfast. and so on for the ways and then for the week. Make sure you hydrate well for you and the children and clock it in ( write when to drinnk water) and go on walks with you and the children or do to the park. Pininterest have some great timetables for the day.
EXAMPLE
8am-9am park time. Son one: makde sure there are drink bottles for everyone. daughter one, remember to pack hats for everyone.
9.15 am to 10.15am return home : rest and relax on the spongy chairs in the playroom.
10.15am to 10.30am SNACK TIME with the apples on the table in the kitchen.
I wonder if these will give you time to 'live your own life. Ignore him. Make sure that you put cooking times in your timetable and it may give both of you something to talk about ?
I'm going through my own dramas which are similar to yours. Please catch up about how your doing?
Our pastor of our church is coming over every day to see my husband but they are both behind ( pastor and his wife) my decision making .......it's very difficult though.
Ciao,