I know this isn't a new topic here, but I'd love some opinions.
Been seeing a guy for 10 months now, both in our 30s, have said I love you, made plans for future etc.
A few months before I met him, he took on a new lodger. She moved out a couple of months later, as she'd bought a house nearby. She is in a long term relationship.
My issue is that I feel uncomfortable with how much he seems to like her. For context, he has a lot of female friends, and I don't get this feeling about any of them. He talks about her a lot, often when the two of us are somewhere he'll make a comment like 'oh, it's a shame she's not here as she knows a lot about this place/topic etc'. He has quite strong feelings about her boyfriend, and thinks she shouldn't be with him. When I watch him talk to her he seems so into what she's saying. I feel like he is a bit in awe of her.
There's just something about this all that makes me feel uneasy. I often wonder if she'd been single when they'd first met, would he have wanted a relationship with her, but I know that's just conjecture.
What I'm in a dilemma about is, should I talk to him about how I feel? I know if he said this about one of my male friends, I'd find it difficult. I don't want him to feel awkward about seeing her, or make things strained. On the other hand, if I don't say anything, I think it might keep eating me up inside.
I would so appreciate some outside opinions on this!