I’ve been NC from my parents for a few years, but been LC recently after my dad was v ill.
My sister came home from travelling around the time Dad got ill and has been living with my parents whilst Dad recuperated. Before travelling she split up with her LT boyf because of long term pressure from my mum who didn’t approve of him (I’ve posted about that previously.
I’m worried that my sister (early 30s) is getting trapped at home. She’s been there for months, but my mum won’t cut her a key for the door, so she can’t go out as she pleases. Mum won’t add her on the car insurance or let her buy a car. She’s blocked her from borrowing a car because my sister has no income at present (loads of savings tho). My sister had a high level job in the City before travelling and is actively looking for a new job in her chosen field. My mum is pressuring her to get a job at the local supermarket.
My mum isn’t physically controlling my sister’s £, but you don’t cross her. Mum gets very angry, and is very good at messing with people’s heads.
I’ve offered my sister a place at my home, but she feels she has to stay because my Dad is still unwell and my mother would erupt if she moved out. She’s completely isolated from her friends, and can’t do anything without my mother’s approval.
Needless to say perhaps, but my parents’ friends and neighbours think they’re awesome people (they can turn on the charm when they need to) and they don’t understand why my sister is so withdrawn and seemingly apathetic (she isn’t but my parents say she is)
I went NC because I couldn’t cope with the control and mind games any more. I’m feeling so upset after hearing my sister tell me what her life is like.
I don’t know if there’s anything I can do to help my sister, other than moral support, and a place to stay if she needs it. She won’t take £. I don’t have anyone IRL to talk to.