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Dealing with problems rape trigger warning

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queenie6687 · 03/01/2020 10:07

Looking for advise how I can overcome this...
I was raped when I was 12 by a 15 year old boy over 10 years ago, I've only ever told my current partner about this and my whole life I've never wanted sex I hate being touched and I'm fed up of feeling like this, does anyone have any advice on who I can talk to

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 03/01/2020 10:10

What happened to you was not your fault and you are not to blame; this is all on the perpetrator.

Please call Rape Crisis; they can help you further.

rapecrisis.org.uk/

AgentJohnson · 03/01/2020 11:00

I'm fed up of feeling like this,

It must be hard being in a relationship with an expectation to do things that have been blighted by a traumatic event at such a pivotal developmental moment.

There is help out there for dealing with traumatic experiences. Be kind to your 12 and 22 year old self by talking to a professional.

Huge hugs and please stop being angry with yourself. In the circumstances your brain is doing it’s job, by protecting you from doing something that could trigger you and that might have some serious consequences for your MH.

queenie6687 · 03/01/2020 11:31

Thank you for both of your words very helpful and I didn't to hear it , I know I need to speak to someone so this year I will make sure it's one of the first things I do

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12345kbm · 03/01/2020 14:28

It sounds like you're suffering from trauma OP and sexual contact 'triggers' you.

There are a few organisations that might be helpful for you such as Rape Crisis, Into the Light - which is a not for profit specifically for sexual abuse survivors, or BACP where you can search for trauma counselling.

You can also try The Survivors Trust [www.thesurvivorstrust.org/our-work]] who offer specialist services to survivors including counselling, support, helplines and advocacy.

NAPAC has a support line and search facility on their website for local support: www.napac.org.uk/

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