Should I tell my friend about her boyfriend ?

[Neverlovedya]

My friend has been with her boyfriend on and off for about 5 years now, and they have a 2 year-old daughter. We have always been a little concerned he's bad news, he's shown himself as racist and homophobic and didn't have a steady job at first, and he drives alone with only a provisional.
But our friend loves him and we know it's her choice. An issue is that he's made it clear he fancies me. The first time I was at their house he seemed very awkward around me and literally the minute I set foot out of the door I had a friend request from him, and a message saying I could come round 'whenever I wanted'.

He's a handyman and once I asked about fixing a crevice I had in my wall and he replied, "send me a picture of your hole 😜😜"
He started to like a few of my pictures on social media. One day I woke up to a message from him saying, "your hot ;)" with the wrong spelling.

I ignored it then he sent a second wink. I replied saying that was highly inappropriate and disrespectful to his girlfriend and he replied he had been 'hacked' or a virus or something along those lines (yeah right) and would 'never do that to his girlfriend and daughter'.

A few months ago I got my hair done and he commented 'gorgeous' on 2 of my photos then private messaged me to say what an 'excellent decision' my new hair was. I just ignored it.

The other week he messaged me saying 'hey' and I ignored it.

This morning he's gone through and 'loved' 5 of my photos on Facebook, all photos of me. Some of them are from months ago meaning he's been looking through them.

I'm fed up of him and if it were my boyfriend I would want to know. The reason I haven't is because they have a young daughter. I know they are on and off but they are back together now and I don't want to break up a family. I have some screenshots to prove it but she may turn against me still. No idea what to do.

@WhatToDo999 it's amazing how women think when they love a sleazeball, isn't it?

@GiveHerHellFromUs it really is!

This may be harsh but if your friend is willing to have a relationship and a child with a man who is racist, homophobic and drives solo on a provisional license, then she probably doesn't especially care what he's like or her standards are so low that she will completely overlook what you tell her anyway.

I would however, report him to the DVLA - he is an uninsured driver, therefore a potential threat on the roads.

Well, she can't see his msgs to you, but surely if he's liking/loving your photos on FB she can see that for herself?

And if she asks you why you blocked him, that's your chance to tell her. Just say he sent you some messages you didn't feel comfortable with.

I say he's racist because I was once in a car with him and my friend and he shouted "You f*ing P*i b**d at an Asian driver who cut him up.
Homophobic as he apparently 'refused to be in the same room' as my friend's homosexual friend.
Our friend is very intelligent and hardworking with a lot going for her, but I guess it's her choice who she chooses to be with.
I will happily keep him blocked and if she questions it then I will tell her the truth. I dread to think what else he's doing.

Does he drive his DC in the car with no license OP??

Report him to the DVLA or the police for goodness sake .

That aside he sounds disgusting and yes I would tell her. I'd bloody report him for having asked for a 'picture of my hole'- it's harassment and he is a pig. Don't communicate with him at all OP, why would you.

Well you’ve blocked him now let’s hope that’s the end of it. If your friend asks why he’s blocked just tell her.
I bet a hundred pounds to a house brick you’re not the only one he’s being a creep to.