New break up.Need someone to talk to..

[Newmom2018]

My husband and I have only split in the last few days but I'm finding this all really hard and really overwhelming. We have a toddler together and sole custody of his 16 year old daughter. He left and is staying in a hotel. Very little communication from him.. mostly nasty sly digs about it being my fault etc.. he left over a row but I think he intended to scare me by going but to be honest I've felt for a while it was ending. We're 10 years together but things have been getting progressively worse. I just don't know what to do. I'm so upset, scared and tired. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing by saying this is the end. I'm scared he'll take his daughter with him. I'm scared of being alone. I'm scared I won't manage financially. I'm scared this isn't the right thing to do...I just don't know. It's all messed up...

Oh I am sorry NewMom, it sounds very very hard.

Of course you are scared - this is a big development and everything is new. Take one step at a time and be kind to yourself.

Sending hugs and

Hugs

My advice is to talk, to really talk. Only time will tell what happens but it's always worse at 2am. I'm a terrible insomniac, even before my separation, but I've spent nights worrying but by talking we managed to separate amicably and are both really happy 10 months on (or I am at least!)

I've not been through this so my advice may be shit but I find at times of stress to not look too far ahead, tackle one worry at a time if you possibly can.

Has he left his daughter living with you?