He won't accept its over for me...

[YommyMommy]

Hi Ladies,

Just looking for some advise and to have a vent.

Been with H for 19 years, married for 13 of these and have 2 beautiful DS. For a long time I have always felt like I would leave him because he just doesn't make me feel happy, loved, beautiful, nothing in common, don't laugh together, watch what he wants to watch on TV, he controls what we spend our money on, talks to me like crap...the only thing we do have in common is DS. He has no zest for life and I prefer to do things without him. Its more relaxed and I feel more like myself when I'm not around him.

Things came to a head over Christmas and I told him it was over. I'm not in love with him anymore, etc. He can't accept it. His life is over without me and he is now acting like the husband he should have been all along, but I still want to leave him 😞 the guilt of him feeling bad is stopping me from moving on.

He wants me to stay and try, because he is now trying...

I just feel lost and frustrated by the entire situation 😣😣😣

How old are your sons ?
For a long time you have let him get away with bad behaviour. But you have maybe both let grass grow under your feet . Unless you are 100% sure the marriage is over don’t rush to leave it . Maybe there’s a chance if he’s willing to really change ?

I don't feel like I want to give him a chance, there has been too many years of feeling like I want to leave. I have told him I wasn't happy a few times, but not that I was leaving. Now I have said I'm leaving and he desperately wants to change?!

It feels like too little too late for me 😔