Fiancé Wants to go Back to BF/GF

[HeadIsPickled]

Hi everyone, just after some thoughts and opinions. Maybe even some advice.

I got engaged in July. Mid-Dec he announced out the blue he no longer wants to get married and left me. We've talked it through and I've agreed to start over, but I'm finding it incredibly difficult. I feel hurt, rejected and the trust has been shattered. His reasons were he got scared and he also wants to be in a better place financially etc.

Do you think there's anyway to make this work? Is it a case of cold feet and he'll come around? Should I cut my losses now and run?

I'm very confused

well done .. you deserve so much better .... Good luck OP..

Good decision. I hope that you feel relief and that yourheadisnotpickledanymore

Were you living together - do you have logistics to untangle?

That was a shitty stunt. As others have said there was either “a better option” he wanted to pursue or if it was stress over money - then he should have behaved appropriately and not jumped ship in a “time of stress” - doesn't bode well for the future.

As from your title am I right in assuming that he wanted to return and relegate you from F to GF?

I'm engaged and if my fiance suddenly announced he was having doubts about marrying me, I'd be out the door.

Leave him, you deserve better. 💖

Only just read the update! Well done for leaving him and all the best for the future 😘

Well done OP on being so strong and leaving.

You deserve better, surely if it was a simple case of wanting finances to be in a better position before you married the logical course would be to discuss it and have an extended engagement of a few years, rather than driving straight into wedding planning.

I feel he is not being truthful to you.

I agree with PP. He could just have said 'can we make it a long engagement because I'd like to save up and be in a good place before the wedding', rather than 'allow me to keep my options open by shoving you onto the back burner'.

You've done the right thing.