Hi, my mum has an ex partner that I really do not like. He's the father of my two younger half sisters that are in their early teens. She invited her ex over for xmas, or his kids did...not sure which. When she told me this the night before Christmas over text I was upset. I told her I'm not coming if he's going to be there. At first she tried to convince me to come, using an example of how she put up with seeing an uncle she hates at our last family gathering... she just wanted me to deal with it but I can't... he's a drug addict that I don't want near me or my child.
So I didn't go... we had a nice Christmas at home.
Then a few days later she asks me when I'm coming over so we can catch up and exchange presents. I tell her I'll visit her on new years day.
I get to her house on new years day and later find out that her ex is there though he was out when I arrived. He apparently invited himself over the night before even though my mum asked him not to come! She told him to stay out all day so I wouldn't see him. But everything was closed so he had to come back with my sister...
I felt really upset that she couldn't be honest with me and tell me he was there. I've already told her I don't want him near my son. She knew he was there and purposely didn't tell me because she knew I wouldn't come to visit if I knew. She even tried to hide him.
During the visit i didn't see him because when they got home he hid in the garage, my mum had asked him to... why did she go through so much effort? Why not just tell me then we could meet up another time.
I was very hurt but had to act like I wasn't. Then I overheard my half sister complaining to my mum about her dad having to hide or I'll have a "sook"... they just don't get it..
Was I in the wrong here? Or was my mum? I haven't confronted her, but I did leave earlier than I normally would just to avoid seeing him if he come out of the garage and I was upset with my mum though I hid it.