Intimidating ex

[tultz1616]

Hi women 😁

First time posting on a forum
Really would like to hear your views
My ex and I broke up a year and and 3 months ago. Boys are 8 and 13
Ex always very angry( in general), controlling bit paranoid
I'm now with a new partner. Very happy. Very serious. Boys really like him. He's fantastic with them
Problem is ex is saying he's ' got people looking for him(???!) And he's a danger to have around the boys. This is bananas. Unfounded. Untrue. It's just the latest leverage he thinks he has. He has said he will 'carve' him up. That if he's minding the kids while I'm at work he will come into my home , take the kids and call social services.
He has already said many times he'd call Tusla (Irish s services) . The kids are happy, well cared for. Ptm lately. Glowing report .happy happy boy.lots of friends.articulate.lots of friends
Yesterday I got an screen grab from ex of a reply from Tusla saying they would investigate his concerns and to give them address of kids
Also he's insanely mad that I wouldnt let 8 year old go to him on his court ordered wkend as he was puking with flu and a temp of 40.he said he would be up the next day with guards to my door cos I broke the order. Child sick in bed ( no body came)
He phoned my eldest son every day and speaks to both. Asking where they are ,who's there etc.

So basically, im being threatened with cops, social services and just general angry, verbally abusive behaviour.

It's come to a point im worried with every car that passes.think my car will be damaged overnight. Lost lots of weight.migraines.
My new relationship will suffer

Due back in court anyway in a couple of weeks cos he doesn't agree with a ruling from summer about paying half of medical, educational and extra curricular.
My solicitor send a letter warning protection order last February

I'm applying for the protection order tomorrow. It seems dramatic but I can't take anymore. This will never end.
He's getting worse. Raging

Any advice appreciated!!!

Hi there, @tultz1616 - just to let you know that we've moved your thread over to our Relationships topic. Hopefully you'll get some really useful advice and support on here.

Hi, you're doing the right thing getting the protection order, I know it's horrible that he's getting Tusla involved but you don't have anything to worry about, and you will be able to tell them about your exes threats and show them if you have any proof, so that should help you out too, even though it's not a nice feeling being investigated.

Tusla have dealt with all of this before and will see right through it, I know 3 women who had exes like yours who phoned Tusla on them, it all worked out in the womens favour in the end because the ex had to rein all the aggressive behaviour in.

So basically, im being threatened with cops, social services
Good - turn this around to be in your favour.
Show all the authorities all the abusive messages.
Keep a diary of all threats and what is said etc......
SS may be able to help you here.
Use them to your advantage!

Report him to the police please

Thank u for the feedback.
Changed my username there from tultz
I got a summons to go to court so he can get an Enforcement Order against me ( cos I kept sick 8 year old on his wkend)!?
I applied for a protection order myself this morning. Stated why I wanted it. Have to meet a judge next Tues morn to have it granted
He just showed up at the house unannounced there. Rang kids to go outside

Formerly Tultz by the way 😄

Be careful. I just read today about that poor woman and her new partner who have been murdered by her ex. It's very very scary what some people are capable of. Call the police if you feel threatened in any way, better to be safe than sorry

It seems crazy to think bout things like that, but these really are the things that pop into your head...!
I definitely feel unsafe. It's his extremely erratic behaviour that's so scary. And now an enforcement order. It's just like he's lost it really. He hasn't a leg to stand on with any of his allegations and threats
Fingers crossed it will be resolved soon

What case is that? I haven't heard