Checking when someone was last active on watsapp

[TheresGotToBeMoreToLife]

Now I know I'm not the only one who does this but I REALLY REALLY want to stop doing it in 2020. It feels so unhealthy.

I dont even know why I do it. It's like torturing myself. Sometimes i think if i see my ex has been on watsapp on and off all evening that means he has been bored and scrolling at home rather than out and having fun. In reality I really dont know. I'm not even that bothered what he does or if he meets anyone new now so why am I checking?!?

I have recently seen a guy I met on Bumble 2 or 3 times, and check his status often too. He'll not message for days but is ALWAYS on there and tells me how busy he is. It just makes me feel a very low priority which clearly I am when weve only just met.

It's so bad for my mental health. Tell me I'm not alone in this.

Just turn it off in your settings, job done

You’re right it isn’t healthy.

Turn off your own “last seen” and you can’t see anyone else’s - that might help you?

Agree, turn off your last seen and stop checking. It's obsessive and isn't healthy.

2 separate issues.
Checking someone's last online is pointless, you only project your own expectations and interpretation onto what you see, and it tells you nothing.
The other issue is of communication with this guy. Is he keen when you meet? Why do you want more regular contact?

Yes, turn it off! I might do the same actually

Turn off your last seen.

That's why I don't have WhatsApp and stick to texting lol.

Block your ex and delete his details?

Make a list of all the things someone could be doing when they are not messaging you or why they might have been online but not messaged you.

I was a bit like this until I dated someone who did monitor my online activity and didnt make a secret of it.

So I'd send my son a message asking him to pick up milk on the way home before I cleaned out the rabbits and then would come back to find several messages from this guy telling me I'd been online and wanting to know why I hadn't messaged him and who I was talking to and why was i too busy to speak to him..?

When it wasnt anything nefarious; i was just busy living my life.

I ended it.

I turned mine off years ago because I felt the opposite and people were checking on me! It’s liberating

I think possibly because I suspect I am just one of a few women he is seeing at the minute and I feel jealous and want him to pick mr.

Christ! I realise how utterly desperate that sounds. I just want to be sometimes first choice ... for once. I know it may sound trivial but for the first time in my life I am starting to feel what I can only describe as utter despair.

In that case, walk away from it. If that is how you feel, walk away.

I had to turn mine off as an ex boyfriend would check to see when I woke up, if I had been on and not read his messages etc

It is liberating

When is says someone is ‘online’ on whatsapp it isn’t always accurate ! Sometimes if the app is open in the back ground it can show they are online. Tried and tested!