Should I have deleted him?

[Claire926]

I was talking to a guy on Bumble in December who lived about 90 miles away from me. We were getting on well. On 19th December he said he would like to take me on a date and he would come to my town and asked when I was free. I replied on 20th December and gave him 2 free dates and said if he is not free we can meet in the New Year. I got no reply for 5 days (which in that time he has been on the app in 2 different locations)until 25th December saying Merry Christmas and he asked if Ihad a nice time. I replied on 26th December and then on the 27th December he asked what I was doing for the rest of the holidays, I replied aday later and did not hear anything since. Last night on New Years Eve I deleted him. I understand that everyone is busy over the Christmas holidays but he asked me when I was free, I gave him some dates and he didn't even acknowledge it. Was I a bit quick to delete him or did he just seem like he was playing a game?

You were a bit quick in my opinion. Most people’s priority in late December is not messing about on a dating site.

Cut him some slack and just ask him, now the Christmas frivolity is over

You haven't met yet, he's quite far away and it's a busy time so not easy to find basically the best part of a day free. Are you just messaging in bumble or do you have each other's number?

No, he was being fickle and not showing much interest. You did the right thing in my opinion and I would've done the same thing.

I'd have deleted too - it only takes 2 seconds to commit to a date. He wanted a penpal/ego boost, so unless that's what you want too, it's an easy delete.

He'd already got distance against him, he'd have had to be a lot more proactive for me to have not deleted. Good call, OP, don't second-guess yourself.

Well you only deleted him. Not blocked him. So if you get a text from an unknown number then it’ll be him!
Deleting is fine. I probably would have. It’s good for your mind to draw a line under things sometimes

You did the right thing in my opinion. To not reply for 5 days despite being on the app is not a great start. Especially as when he did reply, he clearly didn’t respond to the dates for meeting up that you gave him. I would have done the same thing OP.

I think you were a bit quick. I would have waited until the end of this week and given it a few normal days after the Christmas and New Year. I don't think it is odd that he didn't prioritize talking to someone on a dating app over Christmas.

Big quick.

It’s December, most people are busy.

You were also taking a day at a time to reply anyway.

I think you can cut people a bit more slack at this time of year so he didn't do anything terrible but to be honest, I wouldnt start a medium to long distance relationships online. They're hard work even when you have a real life connection in the beginning.

It's hard to say without knowing what his reasons are but I think I would have done the same. He doesn't sound overly keen. If he had not replied to you for 5 days and had been online after a date had been arranged, that would put me off.