Anyone else glad Xmas & New Year's Eve is over?

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Just that really. Don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed Christmas outings and buying presents for people. Overall I've enjoyed the break and I am lucky to have had a Christmas meal with family.

However, being single and having no kids, I've felt quite lonely on some days during the break.

I have friends but most of them are busy with family during Christmas.

See @dimsum123 id love that - sounds like bliss,but it's as though it's only me that feels that way so there's no way out because everybody else thinks it's wonderful. Stuck with it, for the sake of keeping family happy I guess.

Absolutely.

So glad to be back at work today after a week off. That was my tenth Christmas single (45, don't have kids) and aside from seeing my parents for a few hours on Christmas Day and some friends on NYE, I spent almost the entire time alone not seeing or speaking to anyone. All my friends are couples, either with kids, or who go away to family for Christmas. I find Christmas difficult anyway as a great friend died on Christmas Eve when I was 18. I wish it was like the Olympics and once every four years. I start dreading it in October knowing it's just going to be more of the same loneliness for seven or eight days.

No! I have to go back to my sensible adult life being a mum and general dogsbody

Totally - 2nd year without my little sister who was also my best friend.
1st year with my mum in a home.
We've got through it though.
But I could have done without it!

@ShatnersWig, I'm sorry you were alone for much of Christmas. It's such a difficult time for so many people and they just seem to get forgotten in all the shopping and feeding frenzy that goes on.

Having it every 4 years is genius! I always think if it wasn't every year I might feel the tiniest bit of excitement over it, although I doubt it tbh. It's all just so fake, makes me sick.

Vonherr, yes I understand having to go through with it for the sake of others. I'm lucky in that my side of the family don't care at all about Christmas, we all just see it as an enforced holiday and they always go away, skiing etc. DHs side make more of a big deal but DH isn't into it (could be my influence) so he's happy to ignore it as well.

It also means it's not an expensive time as we don't buy presents or go overboard with food.

Yes, I love Christmas but not fussed about New Year and am sick of seeing posts about where are you going to be in the next 10 years.

Ive been back at work since Monday so have fallen back into work routine already, this morning ive been back to the gym and scrubbed the bathroom, working later so making up a healthy tea. Ive eaten far far too much crap in the last month!

Yes me too although I did have a lovely Christmas with parents, sister and daughter, but I've been off work for two and a half weeks and I've spent so much time in the house I feel like I've almost taken root, a combination of no partner, not much disposable income as a single parent and making plans with friends who then flake because obviously busy with own families, partners and stuff at this time of year. I miss the routine of work as well as the social sideand I'll be glad when the demands to spend, spend, spend are over, my anxiety levels have been quite high these past few weeks, a combination of money worries and too much time stuck in the house alone with my own thoughts I think and I have actually managed to lose weight over Christmas as a result! There is a guy I like at work too we've both liked each other for a while I was hoping something might happen between us before Christmas but it didn't, but it will be nice to see him again and who knows, maybe we'll get together in 2020!

In the spirit of being optimistic about the possibility of meeting a new partner in 2020 I have also joined match. It's been three and a half years now since I last had a partner and I've been absolutely climbing the walls this Christmas I am so ready for my life to be about more than just working and bringing up my daughter.

I used to love Christmas/New Year. SO much so that I got married a week before Chirstmas. NOt so good when 13 years later your husband has an affair and you find out 2 days after Christmas so now this time of year is just full of painful memories and reminders. Thanks for that ex.

BUT, this year I spent Xmas with my children, until the evening when they went to their dad's and I spent the rest of the evening and next day with my boyfriend of 4 months and my parents so I am trying to change the narrative and think how lucky I am and how there are people who have had it a lot worse than me.

Still...glad it's done for another year...

Yep, me. I'm bored yet with loads to do as the dc just make tons of extra work for me. Ds has flooded the en-suite this morning so I now have a soaking bedroom carpet. Dds find it impossible to put anything in the dishwasher or clothes away. I'll be glad if school on Monday. I'm going to sit and drink tea and watch Vera all day. I need a rest for this so called holiday 😩

I'm glad it's done

Cost me thousands ...extended family a pain in the arse....DH is ill ...... proper hassle

So pleased it’s over! Almost a relief to be back in work today and dealing with stress of a different sort.

Left abusive H almost 3 months ago, back at home with parents and our toddler who hates sleep and has learned to say No.

As petty as it sounds, even seeing everyone post on SM about their amazing life events in the past decade with (seemingly) happy marriages, career and life events etc proved too much and I’m so pleased to move on from them and in to 2020!

@Newtcase well done you for leaving, I left my abusive husband 16 years ago and I've never once regretted doing so, I haven't had the best past decade either but as @Sunshineandflipflops said there are people who have it worse than us we have hope for the future and that's only possible once you are out of a bad relationship situation. I'm sure a lot of those people with so called perfect lives don't have perfect lives really, a lot of people aren't willing to live their lives with full honesty about what's really going on but unless and until you do things you have no possibility of things getting any better. So again, well done you @BercowsFestiveFlamingo yes me too I'm bored but with tons to do around the house but I don't want to do any of it! and I'm full of cold as well , 12 days of Christmas really is a lot of time to fill, especially for those of us with small families, no partner, friends who don't want to meet up and little money! but only a few more days of it to go now..roll on Monday!

So glad!

Shatnerswig - I took myself out for brisk walks even if it was just to the local supermarket or a walk around town. I enjoyed the walks and it got me out and talking to people.

I used to think that Christmas would be a fantastic time for couples with children but I've realised through friends it can be hard work and stressful. I should count my blessings that I can do whatever I want during Christmas.