11:56 — I’m going to bed

[Longsight2019]

My wife had planned to go to bed before the New Year tonight which was totally fine.

After talking and watching a few things, she was later than expected and made the announcement at 11:56 That she was going to bed. Clearly I was taken aback.

I got annoyed and felt upset that she wasn’t even aware enough to say “HNY” or come and sit with me to see the NY in.

We had a huge row and both said things we will regret. Awful.

Why would she be so bloody thoughtless? I can only imagine her reaction if I did the same.

Well tbh my husband did the same and we were just happy to go to bed

New year stirs a lot of emotions and thought , unless you have more reasons to be pissed off at your wife I reckon you should let it go.

The whole midnight thing feels uncomfortable and forced to me

My dh wanted to go to bed at about the same time but stayed up, although he clearly wasnt enjoying it, and initially that annoyed me because I felt like he was trying to make me feel bad for enjoying myself (he really wasnt). Having sat and thought about it, he'd been in the kitchen all day, served me and his sister a lovely dinner, and was beyond tired and sore. And ultimately ringing in the new year just doesn't mean all that much to him. I should have supported him in going to bed, we'll have many other new years to ring in.

Your wife is a grown adult who can choose her own bedtime every day of the year. In the grand scheme of things what does it matter that she wanted to go to bed just before midnight tonight?

Meh. According to my husband I 'ruined 2020' by not switching the tv over to Big Ben's chimes and fireworks (I was in the middle of Stranger Things). You and he should spend next NYE together

Did you ask her to stay up with you for another 4mins cause you'd love to count down together or whatever?

New year is a load of forced bullshit anyway, get over it.

Seriously, you picked a fight about it?! It's really not a big deal OP. I'd have thought her planning on going to bed before midnight would have told you it wasn't a big deal for her anyway. I think you're being ridiculous and you owe her a massive apology for totally overreacting. Whether you both need to apologise for stuff that was said in the bananas, unnecessary argument is kinda between you.

Sorry, still can't get over this. People are weird.

Agree with you @smeghead90

Its not a big deal!!!

My husband fell asleep on the sofa at 10 and my son stayed up until 11!!
Thoughtless?? It’s just another night!

Me and my wife went to bed at 9pm. I'm only up now because I need painkillers. I feel the NYE thing is a waste of time to be honest. Just another evening really.